My boyfriend just broke up with me over the phone

I had been seeing this younger man named Daniel Thomas since last Aug. He was on paroleand got busted 3 times drinking and once with a dirty urine for crack cocaine. So he ended up in county jail in Jan. of this year. I went to see him faithfully and brought him gifts and gave him money while he was there. Then he got sent to a 2 month rehab way up state N.Y. and I drove him there personally. we wrote to eachother but not like when he was in jail. Something was didfferent . He seemed to be angry. At what I really don't know. I complained that his letters weren't full of I love u"s and I miss U's and I can't stand being without u or anything along those lines. His responce was that he didn't have enough time to write those type of letters to me because he really has to think about what he wants to say. I was upset. Why does he have to think about what to say to me either u feel it or u don't. Apparently he didn't. His letters were full of demands for more things that he needed $, sneakers, phone cards, stamps etc. Stupidly I provided all of the above for him. Then he write to me and tells me that he is being sent away to another rehab for a year. The first thing I said was that I was not willing to make a financial commitment to him for the next year. Then I asked how we were suppossed to maintain a relationship being apart for that length of time? I truely never had a long distance relation\ship before and was asking for his advise on how to stay together during this long term seperation. Well the next thing I know he calls my cell phone when I have a house full of people and tells me that it is better off if we just end the relationship. I found myself almost beging for at least a friendship. He said he would write me with his new address. Which he did. I wrote him back telling him how upset I was about him breaking up with me and in his next letter heproceeded to tell me that I didn't sound that upset about it over the phone and that all we can have is a friendship because he has moved on basically. I was tore up from the floor up. But maybe it was a blessing in disguise. What kind of a future could I have with a 24 year ols man who has to be on parole until 2008 and will always be a felon who is addicted to drugs, alcohol and gambling. Besides my 12 year old daughter hated him. So now I am left feeling used and unwanted and taken advantage of. I haven't written him back because I know not what to say to him. I am not sure that a friendship with such a person will be a good investment for me but I hate being cut out of his life all together. Is there something wrong with me? How do I change my feelings from being in love with him to just being a friend? I am just venting but if you would like to give me some feedback on this subject I surely would appreciate it.

((((((( HUGS ))))))) ~ ~ ~ ~ ((((((( HUGS )))))))

Sweetie while I know it hurts right now for you have feelings that are getting stired I still have to ask? - Do YOU honestly think this relationship is based on love, with a good solid foundation?

If NOT..................... I would move on with out him.

LoVe,
Rhapsody -

he is and has been using you, get out now, he will bring you down, take you for everything you have, then move on leaving you broken, children are a good judge of caricture (sp), trust your daughter when she says he is not nice.

I don't believe a relationship is supposed to hurt but I dont know.

There ain't nothing wrong with you, unfortunitly love can make us blind and alter the way we see the people we love. I'm going to be honest, you deserve better then this man, he should be begging for you to stay, not the other way around. It is a blessing, you've done what you could for the guy, and obvisiouly he's a mess.

You'll do much better off, plus if your daughter despices him then that should be very important too. It hurts to be alone, but I'm sure you will find somebody better and not an junkie. Just let this one go, for the sake of yourself and daughter.