why is it difficult to let go of someone you can't stand?

GRRRR!!! Thankfully I'm not with this woman anymore, and have no reason to call her, but sometimes I get bored and foolishly pick up the phone anyway...I regret it EVERY TIME! and will soon learn my lesson. I need to remind myself each and every day that there are hundreds of reasons I left her butt back in Florida.
should I list them?

YES.................. list them and then read them every time you think about picking up that DARN phone.

LoVe,
Rhapsody -

HEY!! - btw - where at in Florida is she located..... maybe I can drive by her house and egg her car for YOU - lol lol lol - just kidding just kidding.

Gotta LoVe ME.....
Rhapsody -

She's in Daytona Beach area...don't do that...not yet anyway.

OK......................... just say when - I am only about 2 hours away - lol.


Gotta LoVe ME...
Rhapsody -

Are you lonely? If you are, it could be the reason why you go back calling her. Maybe you did have some good moments with her and I guess that this is what the mind remembers. If you find somebody new I am sure you'll stop calling. This is also happening to me. I keep on calling this horrible guy moments when loneliness hits maximum levels.

yes, I'm sure it is just loneliness and regret...I regret meeting her, getting close with the kids, moving across the country to be with her, and so much more.
My biggest fear has always been being alone...and it's just difficult to break the little connection we did have.

better not, but thanks anyway.
Jon

Jon, I just separated from my husband yet again!! I know how you feel. I think we keep calling or going back because it's something KNOWN to us. It's familiar and it's better than nothing... or so we think. Call it a "bad habit" we need to break!

Jon, you're Christian, right? You are NOT alone! Like the Apostle Paul, strive for contentment in any situation.

Maybe you need to work on being comfortable in your own skin? I had to learn the hard way... by being alone. My heart goes out to you. I understand ever so well!!

I'm sorry for your separation again; and thanks for the encouragement...yes, I am a Christian, and am working on being more comfortable in my own skin.
Thanks,
Jon

Don't be sorry! It's a good thing! It's the last time, too!!

Okay, then enjoy the new-found freedom.

I'm having the same problem. I'm one of those people who take absolutely forever...

In trying to do just one thing I have to put up with my bf till I'm able to break it off. I tend to go back to my exes from time to time, too. I remember one guy I went back and forth with 10 different times! Talk about never making up my mind! LOL

I wish you the best of luck!

yes, I had an ex-fiance' like that. I would push her away, and let beg her to come back to me...we really were best friends, and she's probably the only one who really cared about me (in a relationship). I just had too many demons to fight, and lost her for good.
This one though...wish I had never met her. Such an angry woman...such a *****, can't believe I was so stupid.
Good luck in breaking it off and moving on...I think it's because we hate to be alone. Better to be in the wrong relationship, than to be without, right?

I guess we all make foolish mistakes...I'm learning that I can't let go because it's hard to forgive myself for giving of myself yet again to someone who doesn't deserve it.
If I could just catch a glimpse of the woman I thought she was, then perhaps I could accept that things just didn't work out...but that woman is nowhere to be found...could I have been so blind?