[JBAS17]

Hello,

My name is John. I have been talking to the same girl for nearly 3 years. Her and I have been on and off mainly because we still needed to mature. Now that we have matured, we are better now. Since 2013 started, we have not had any major problems and we're just in a perfect state of a relationship. However, last summer of 2012, I made a mistake because of my anger issues and her parents won't let us see each other. I got help with my anger issues and I've been a better person since the new year started. Her mom has been lenient and has actually been accepting me, but her dad still isn't budging one bit. Her mom has been taking her dad's side mainly because they don't want to ruin their own relationship since they have had their own relationship problems. I'm actually quite happy for them because they have been going to retreats and counseling to make their own relationship better. Now I'm asking, what are my options? What should I do? I don't want to give up because I really do love the girl and we've been going out for so long. I have tried moving on by talking to someone else, we took a month break, but that didn't go well. We tried pulling a "Romeo and Juliet" (except the ending part), and we've just been sneaking around. If you need more details, please ask. Thank you!

[maggy.ng]

Dear JBAS,

To me, you should make your effort. Have you both had a serious conversation? Have you ever shown her how much you care of and love her and how important she is to your life? Have you understood what she wants, needs from you and your relationship.

Your first problem is not about her parents, but about you and her. Because if she did love you, she'd know how to get her parents to accept you.

All in all, you should rekindle your relationship and her passion. Or this might be the time for her to look back. If so, you need to try more and more, to prove that you're her right person.

I hope she will change her mind, and then come back to you.

Hugs to you

[JBAS17]

Originally Posted by maggy.ng

Dear JBAS,

To me, you should make your effort. Have you both had a serious conversation? Have you ever shown her how much you care of and love her and how important she is to your life? Have you understood what she wants, needs from you and your relationship.

Your first problem is not about her parents, but about you and her. Because if she did love you, she'd know how to get her parents to accept you.

All in all, you should rekindle your relationship and her passion. Or this might be the time for her to look back. If so, you need to try more and more, to prove that you're her right person.

I hope she will change her mind, and then come back to you.

Hugs to you

Thank you for the reply. I forgot to include this but her and I are fine. We still love each other and proceed to talk to each other through texting and in school. However, we're not allowed to see each other publicly, but we usually sneak around it. I just need to get her parents on our side.

Again, thank you!

- John

[JBAS17]

Please, if anything is unclear, just ask!

Thank you

-John

[maggy.ng]

I guess you both must be at high school or college.

To me, Sneaking around is not a bad idea, sometimes if possible you appear in front of them in a reasonable way. Me either. My bf and me do the same thing. When we feel we should come and visit them, tell them what we're gonna do, etc, we will do so. My parents don't like him much. But we still see each other in public.

Do whatever you consider it being good for both of you. But remember, everything never hidden for so long, one day it will be discovered. To some extent, I think you are lying. People feel released when they don't have to make up stories. Think about what time is suitable for her parents to know about your relationship and what you would do to make you understood and prove you are a good person for their daughter.

I hope you can do it.