Maybe I am not good enough?

Hello,

I am almost 25 years old. Kinda young but not really. I didn't start dating until I was 21 and out of the Army. I have always been one of those weird lonely guys. and with being 5"2 i am short for a guy. The first girl I dated, well i was a joke to her she made fun of me to her friends but never to my face. The 2nd girl i really cared about until she was talking to a guy behind my back. now this girl i am with now i have been with her for a year and a half. by far my longest relationship.When I first started talking to her she left me for a guy even though she said she said it was because i "pissed" her off. a few months passed and i talk to her and somehow she's single. we were talking again. and she hooked up with two people. i got passed that because we weren't really together. about 6 months into our relationship. her old "hook up buddy" came back around. basically she really liked him but you know all he wanted was sex. well when we came around she broke up with me. Now mind you i moved two states to be with her and practically left everything for her. so she broke up with me and talked to him. i just found out two weeks ago that she told him things like " i am only with Jason ( me) because i can't be with you" and all that stuff. she lies to me about her past. i have to force it out of her. so who knows what she really did. or said. seems like ill always be 2nd best. I better get use to it. I don't think real love exists anymore

If you're looking for opinions I'll give you mine. I don't think it's you... but I think you have either had very bad luck or you need to work on developing your judgement of potential mates. Maybe they are the same thing. In a way you've been fortunate... you didn't marry any of these women. 25 is a little young to be giving up. Good luck

Don't stay with the woman for whom you are 2nd best.

I know a guy who is short, smart, funny, ugly in a pleasant way, etc etc and always has an entourage if girlfriends half his age (he is 50+) and 1.5 his height. He likes tall women.

So height or lack thereof is not a problem if you are confident.

Your problem is not that you are 5''2. And, you cannot become taller anyway.

Your problem is that you make sacrifices for people who are not worth it and without collecting enough information about them. That move was a self saccrifice, right?

You must be very bitter now, realizing whom you sacrificed everything for.

But there is a silver lining. This is a solvable, fixable problem. You can learn to act in your self-interest and not make so many sacrifices.

I agree that you are very young still.

Lovely kitty on the avatar

You're right I have made some scarfices. A bunch actually. She has mad one too. she moved from Florida with me to Texas for a better job, life. So she left all her family behind. it's just that in the back of my head i think im always going to get cheated or lied too

I agree with the others. I'm a female, and I like guys who aren't "tall". This has nothing to do with your height.

This has more to do with the girls that you've been attracted to. Perhaps they're just not the "nicest" kind of girls. You sound like a nice guy to me, and I think you should set your sights a little higher as far as the TYPE of girl you want.

Look for a NICE girl -- not a flashy, cheap girl. But a really nice girl who doesn't date alot, or who doesn't go from Joe to John every time you turn around. Look for a girl who DESERVES you.

I'm sure you'll find her -- you have plenty of time cause you are young. I know you're probably lonely, but don't rush things. Don't be in a hurry to get married. The girl you choose has to be WORTH it. So far you haven't found her. God bless and please take care. Big hugs, Lee

Dont lose your belief. Be more confident about yourself. To me, appearance (tall or good looking or something like that) doesnt mean anything. The most importance to attract a woman is your brain and your heart.

25 years old with a guy is too young to give up loving someone. Dont think about marriage soon. You should keep dating, finding someone suitable for you. Patience is key for you.

you have your whole life ahead of you, now through experience you've learned not to be so trusting at first, falling head over heels is a good place to be if the other person is too. It may also not be the best place to be either.you have to use your heart and your head sometimes, I hate saying that but it's true to me. look for someone with your interests, doesn't really care about you for your looks, but likes your heart.

Are you developing the non-romantic elements of your life? We mention getting out of the Army when you were 21 & the women you've been involved with--but what else? Do you like your life? Are you a guy with with a secure, fun, comfortable life to share with someone?
I hope your height doesn't bother you. I'm 4'8" and if a guy makes a crack about my size I say, "If you think you have a joke I haven't heard, let's hear it. Otherwise, end of subject. Okay?" I do my best to say it gently, without any meanness or anger. Just an honest smile.
Find a graceful way to discover your date's interests early on. Since you are older, you're going to want more in common than going to movies and making out.
Keep coming back, post wherever you find something in common.

roadie

This girl sounds like she will always be waiting for a bigger fish to come along. I would not put up with that. You don't have to be second fiddle to someone else. I'd let her go free to find the next guy.

I simply do not think its that you're not good enough (like the title of your thread says) but simply that she is not good enough for you.

It hurts, yes, but she's a bit of a player. She is really not good enough for you, and that's nothing to do with your height. Move on, forget her, and find someone that actually deserves you.

Hugs.

it's kind of hard when we live together. I was co-dependent for a long time. probably because i didn't have a great family growing up. I wanted other people to take care of me.plus the army kind of screwed me up. now im to the point where i need to take care of myself.and set a foundation for me.

one of these days i think im going to take her on the maury show or something

OP,

I also wanted to let you know...

My daughter Julia had a classmate, Alex. He was very short and extra cute. His brown eyes were HUUUUGE.

Both his parents were short.

Alex became a math genius and the school had to provide a special teacher for him. He also started writing computer code at some insanely young age.

Short people rule!

Even if you are not a math genius but just plain short, still, short people rule! Napoleon, too - very short.

Hugs.

Aw yeah. I take after my mom she's 5"1 i'm 5"2 and my dad and little brother is pretty tall. I'm pretty smart also

See! You are good enough after all.