I sometimes get jealous over nothing. when i find out what it's all about, i'm just not interested. my friends used to make a lot of friends at once and then i would get jealous because they get friends so fast without trying whereas I have to start talking to people in order for them to just, you know, be there for me and all that. i have to tell them that i am here to make friends in order to become their friend, and it sucks. then i found out that i was missing out on a lot of extracurricular activities, like tennis, badminton, dance, etc. i was a recluse so i began to just stay afterschool and finally got to meet some people and it was alright. I'm glad I have some friends. they have like a ton of friends and i'm just not happy when they perform better and quicker than i do. now that i have seen everything and know everything, he doesn't really talk to these people since they're just his casual friends. now i'm like i was being jealous for nothing. it's always better to not assume. and when someone speaks to me and tells me that i'm not getting what i want, i get a little mad and then i get over it. i wish i can just be robotic, not have any feelings. i don't want to have feelings of sadness or anything negative, but of course, that's not how life would be. i feel like i have to remove everything that makes me sad or negative.

[hamster-bamster]

sorry to sidetrack your thread, but does your public school really offer tennis and, even, BADMINTON?

my school offers varsity tennis. i'm not sure about badminton, but then there are some girls that i know who play in it. they are planning on getting it on the list, but we don't know until like in a couple of weeks.

yeah and i don't want to deal with these negative feelings anymore. i want them to just dissipate. i wish i was a robot so that i don't have to be jealous. people can tell when i'm jealous of them. they hear it in my tone of voice.

[Permanent Pajamas]

I've wished since I was a little kid that I could be a Vulcan.

[hamster-bamster]

Originally Posted by heyitsme7

my school offers varsity tennis. i'm not sure about badminton, but then there are some girls that i know who play in it. they are planning on getting it on the list, but we don't know until like in a couple of weeks.

if you have that option, use it. Badminton is rather rare in America; it is mainly played in Europe and in China. It is a great sport.

our school has badminton. but most of our fellow students are not asians. they're hispanics.

[hamster-bamster]

Originally Posted by heyitsme7

yeah and i don't want to deal with these negative feelings anymore. i want them to just dissipate. i wish i was a robot so that i don't have to be jealous. people can tell when i'm jealous of them. they hear it in my tone of voice.

These are two separate issues: the feelings and the perceptions of other people. You probably can accumulate enough social graces and self-control over time to deal with the latter part; the former part will be harder.

it IS a great sport.

i dont want to keep on thinking about it. liek when i don't get what i want, i complain and when i don't get it still i complain even more. that's just not good. i need to understand that not everything will always come my way. just like today when i found out that i was not getting a new phone or something like that, i was just a little upset. like why can't I? all my friends have it and their parents pay for it. so i don't know. but then it's like why can't i wait until i'm older so that when i make money i can buy what i need without freeloading off my parents? why didn't i think about that before i jumped to conclusions?

[hamster-bamster]

Originally Posted by heyitsme7

but then it's like why can't i wait until i'm older so that when i make money i can buy what i need without freeloading off my parents? why didn't i think about that before i jumped to conclusions?

You did not think about it because it is a pretty mature idea. That is why. Not something to think of immediately.

i know. sometimes when one doesn't get what he wants from others, he might as well just try on his own. that's the only way he'll ever get what he needs or wants.

[hamster-bamster]

Originally Posted by heyitsme7

i know. sometimes when one doesn't get what he wants from others, he might as well just try on his own. that's the only way he'll ever get what he needs or wants.

right. But if everybody has a phone and you do not, you might feel jealous. No shame in it. Plus, a phone is more or less a necessity these days - it is not like "Hollister" t-shirts.

true. i agree. but i want one of those samsung galaxies or blackberries that my friends have. and their parents paid for them so my parents i understand they want to save but i feel kind of ashamed of my phone when people see it. back in middle school, i knew this one girl who would dub me a poor person simply because i did not wear hollister clothing or stuff like that. she even said i couldn't afford an ipod so i bought one and then when i got it, i listened to some really loud and depressing music. plus to make matters worse, i was going through depression. i was always upset with something. so i just felt like you know what that ipod was not worth it. so i threw it away. it was terrible. i was like i wish i had paid little or no attention to her. she was a total jerk to me.

[Pikku Myy]

I was always told to follow and try to act like the person you admire... You may never be what this other person is... but look for positive role models & add YOUR little twist Its healthy to be jealous every so often... but not all the time Hugs

i don't want to be jealous at all but it's hard.

[hamster-bamster]

Originally Posted by heyitsme7

i don't want to be jealous at all but it's hard.

you are trying to will feelings, and surely that would be hard

well of course. who wants to bottle up these negative feelings all the time? who doesn't want to be happy with what they currently have? this is ridiculous, me being jealous of others just because they're a little bit better than me. if i'm constantly jealous then i'll be unhappy and i don't want that. i mean, not everybody can be stephen hawkings.

[hamster-bamster]

Originally Posted by heyitsme7

well of course. who wants to bottle up these negative feelings all the time? who doesn't want to be happy with what they currently have?

If you succeed in relieving negative feelings, you will arrive at a neutral point, not happiness.

To be happy, you actually need to enjoy what you have, and you can start doing it right now, without attending to the negative feelings.

i want to get rid of them. i don't want to be jealous because i shouldn't be. my jealousy can only last up to this much and then when i find out what it's all about, i find that my jealousy was just all for nothing. i am sorta jealous when i don't get the things that others have. it's crazy. i mean, who needs it? please tell me that i shouldn't be jealous.

[hamster-bamster]

Originally Posted by heyitsme7

please tell me that i shouldn't be jealous.

I already told you not to will feelings. I can add that you should not judge the feelings either.

oh okay.