[Worried Grandma]

Has anyone gone to court to help a young grandchild who is being abused by a parent with naricisistic Personality Disorder where the abuse is not obvious? Our 5 year old grandson has cried out since he was able to talk. A judge did not believe us and gave dad full custody. The school called CPS, but nothing was done. Dad insists we called CPS and will no longer let us see the child, who now has no place to go to get away from dad. Abuse includes verbal, emotional and physical (pulling his hair, slapping his face, throwing him angrily on a couch, etc.). We have hired a top psychologist as an expert witness and finally have a good court date coming up. Just wondering about others with this problem.

[Travelinglady]

Let's give this post a chance to see if anybody else has had a similar experience. If this post doesn't work, then maybe you can post in the parenting forum.

I hope the lawyer will make a difference. I know what it's like to live with a narcissistic parent. I am glad to hear you're trying to intervene.

[Daylight003]

Hi PAYNE1 ~

I've just came to the realization recently that my mother has NPD so I can relate to an extent... If you get the chance to regain contact with your grandchild then definitely keep a journal or a log about the abuse so that it can be collected as evidence. If you see any bruises or scratches you could also document pictures. Or even if you have a voice/video recorder on your phone you could ask your grandchild general questions about their father/homelife. Have a stand of witnesses to their behavior as well.

Sadly these kind of people are extremely manipulative, great liars and are able to twist reality to suit their own purposes. You need to stay one step ahead, try to catch them in a lie (- also they are generally predictable). I sincerely hope that you win your court case and that your grandchild gets the love and attention that he deserves. Please let us know how you get on. Take care ~