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Apr 19, 2013, 05:44 AM
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 I was in a 5 yr relationship.I also had a best friend of 5 yrs.Well recently he kicked me out and moved her in . Im so sad angry confused and hurt!!!How do 2 people who SUPPOSEDLY love and care 4 u do this to u???  
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Apr 19, 2013, 09:33 PM
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I'm so sorry. That's a horrible experience!  Sometimes, friends make mistakes when they've been drinking or doing drugs. I did have a friend who slept with my date one night, but that's as close of experience that I've had. You and your ex-boyfriend were together about as long as you and your best friend. Had the two have any experience together before you came along? Were they friends or bf/gf before you got together?? If so, it's possible that they've been holding these emotions (or desires) for each other down for many years. That's about the only acceptable possibility that I can think of right now. If so, perhaps you and your friend will eventually be able to let go of this hurt and confusion & be able to become friends again. In my opinion, most of that lies within you. You may never be willing to forgive your friend for this. But...hopefully, you will be able to let go of this pain and move on in your life. Gentle hugs to you ~ I hope that your pain begins to subside soon.
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Apr 20, 2013, 06:37 AM
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Thanks for ur response and support.2 mos.ago her and i were talkin bout her movin in w/ US.My man and i agreed it was not a good idea.well him and I began to really not get along he was very vrebally abusive to me.Also threw things at me at times.so wen he put me out i told her and she said she missed her kid so much and i said (just testing)see if he will let u stay w/ himand she failed miserably.so i stopped talkin to her and they began talkin.So they fell in love in 3 weeks over the phone.then on april 12th she came here from PA to NY to live w /him.Ill eventually be ok just feel betrayed.They were never my friends either one of them.I realize now he is very co dependent and coundnt be alone more than a month.And she just using him for a place to be close to her kid.He bearley knew her .her and i talked all the time not him and her.he didn't like her said she was a liar and a ***** cuz she has 3 kids by 3 different men.and has custody of none of them.they couldnt possibly had feelings for each other b4 this she was in a different state?????
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Apr 20, 2013, 07:07 AM
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This is a terrible thing to happen to anyone. She obviously was not a TRUE friend to you. A true friend wouldn't even THINK of doing something like this.
Yes, you will get over this. But PLEASE don't let it harden your heart, or make you suspicious of people. Not very many people would pull such a nasty trick as this. Keep your heart and mind open to people -- generally, they're good.  I wish you the very best. My prayers are with you for a rapid healing! God bless you and please take care. Hugs, Lee 
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Apr 20, 2013, 07:17 AM
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tnt4lyfe72 welcome and i hope things get better for you. I agree, what kind of friend does this to another? They are not your true friends if they would betray you in this way. If I were you I would not even be a part of them anymore and kick them out of your life, then they'll see what they've done to you.
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Apr 20, 2013, 07:38 AM
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walk away , they are losers. this happened to a woman I knew. She was newly married and pregnant and her husband left her for one of her girlfriends. she was left to raise "Billy" on her own and then she married a biker guy and they had another son. She always seemed sad and like life had cheated her. At least you are not pregnant with his child.
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Apr 20, 2013, 07:41 AM
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Ugh! I'm so sorry this happened to you!
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Apr 20, 2013, 01:17 PM
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Apr 20, 2013, 01:25 PM
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Apr 20, 2013, 01:38 PM
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 thanks 4 ur support.
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Apr 20, 2013, 01:39 PM
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Apr 20, 2013, 02:14 PM
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I am sorry that you have had to endure this kind of hell.
In a kind of support/defense of a previous post...dont' let this ruin your life or keep you from finding the true love and happiness that you deserve. If you like, you can kind of turn it around and look at it like this... The BEST revenge is living well. Go out with a purpose and find your love and forget those two losers cause I will promise you they wont last. If they do then they surely deserved each other. You deserve better! 
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Apr 20, 2013, 04:56 PM
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But reading the above, you know what? I think in time, when the hurt goes a little, you'll realise that you are much better out of a relationship like this and away from a so-called friend. You deserve so so much better and like Spirit said, the best revenge is living well and being happy. Hugs |
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Apr 20, 2013, 05:32 PM
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Apr 20, 2013, 05:39 PM
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i think thats what im most hurt about.again thx so much.
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