[trulieliving]

Hello
I'm a Junior in a big university. I transferred recently and am having a hard time making friends. I tried joining clubs/fraternities. Got rejected from a fraternity. Feel rejected from club...Making friends in classes are usually kinda hard. There's lots of competition so everyone in classes have beast mode on for the A. In addition, my close friends seem to hang out with themselves now. I feel betrayed that they are leaving me out. But at the same time, I forgive them because friendships outgrow as we get older. But seems like I'm the only one and they're fine. So I feel like there's something wrong with me.......... I can't seem to connect with people and can't make friends. Also, I feel as though because I'm a FB loser...people who would becomes FB friends with me will not want to be friends.

I'm not hideous (I get compliments that I am pretty) but not a perfect body (not obese. just gained a few pounds recently. trying it lose it now ).

I need advice.

[hamster-bamster]

Screw fraternities anyway, screw FB, and do not worry about the few extra lbs - just gradually add more exercise but do not diet.

Try joining non-competitive classes - yoga or optional French or history of cinematography or something. Just to meet people in a casual setting.

[hamster-bamster]

I cannot tell if you are a boy (you mention fraternities) or a girl (you mention being "pretty", which is sometimes used to describe boys, but more often is used to describe girls).

Just wondering.

[IceCreamKid]

Somewhere, probably near by, is another person who is experiencing many of the same emotions as you. Please consider becoming involved in whatever organizations there are on your campus that are service oriented, and/or who welcome newcomers to your school. Some programs of study are extremely competitive and may draw people who are naturally competitive. You can mitigate that somewhat by, when possible, taking electives that seem more fun-oriented to you. A natural for your situation might be to take a class that involves physical activity. A friend of mine who was in an extremely stressful program always made a point of taking phys. ed. classes; he said he had fun, he got some exercise, and it was a complete break from his Mathematics and Computer Science majors.