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I'm wondering if anyone else feels like this: When there is a guy I am attracted to who maybe I am having sex with, and who I care about, I typically will end up feeling fond for and caring about guys that are his best friend, not in an attraction kind of way, just in a human kind of way. If I am with the guy I am attracted to and his best friend, I will usually position myself in a way that I am in between the two of them if we're walking together or if we're sitting together, and I will touch the guy I'm attracted to, if we are at that level, but I will also touch the other guy. I think of it as "sharing myself" because physical contact is very important to me and so I don't want the friend to be left out. So, for example, when I hung out with Bryan (who I was attracted to) and Darrell (his best friend), I would walk between them and maybe brush up against Darrell, in addition to Bryan. And when we sat on the stoop together I sat in the middle and positioned my elbows and knees in a way (subtle and not creepy, just kind of natural), that I would be slightly touching both of them. When Mike (who I was attracted to) and Nills (his stepbrother who is like his best friend) and I all hung out together, we made a fort and watched a movie, and I lay between the two of them, and let it happen that I was touching both Mike and Nills (maybe shoulder lightly against shoulder, or arm against arm, or leg against leg). I am hyper aware of physical contact, for a few different reasons I guess. Was just wondering if anyone else has felt like this. Haven't really heard of anyone feeling like this before.
Also, my favorite social situations is when I'm alone with a guy, or with he and his best friend, or with a group of all guys. I generally enjoy being with guys more than I enjoy being with girls. I told this to my therapist once and she cut me off and said it's okay and people just have different preferences, but I feel like there is something more to it - that there's something behind it, a reason, I don't know. Wondering if anyone has felt this way, also. |
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I have never read or heard of anything like that - in the way you describe, with precision, the way you position yourself touching two guys at once.
That said, reading the OP makes one think of a sexual encounter with two males and one woman - not the kind of that people arrange online with random strangers or anything like that, but with two men who know each other very well and a woman whom both of they are fond of - maybe one more than the other. Maybe one crazily in love with and the other just fond of - that kind of situation. I have not had an actual experience with it but I can see myself having this kind of experience under appropriate circumstances. Has it ever occurred to you that you might be at least fantasizing along these lines? |
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![]() You make an interesting point. One night when Bryan (who I was into) and Darrell (his best friend) hung out together and I was sitting touching both of them on the porch, Darrell was very aware that Bryan and I were having sex and that Bryan and I were interested in each other that way, it was pretty obvious plus Bryan told him about our earlier sexual encounter. But the next night when Darrell was drunk Darrell texted me "Every time I looked in your eyes I wanted to kiss you" and he wanted to hang out with just me and no Bryan, and I didn't want that, and now Bryan hates me for unrelated reasons and Darrell hates me for not wanting to be alone with him and for being straightforward with him. I feel lonely without physical contact from humans (platonic or not), it's a big complicated issue for me, and so I guess maybe that's part of my motive - because I don't want the other guy to feel left out or lonely, either. I feel like I'm kind of a pretty warm person and so physical contact is one way that it manifests itself. I don't mean anyone any harm but you brought up a good point I should be aware of, that I might hurt someone without meaning to, so thank you. That sounds really sucky about that girl and you ![]() |
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