Ready to call it quits

I have no idea how things have gone on this long. Married and with my husband for over 12 years. We have had our ups and downs for sure. But i never believed that he would ever be like this toward me. At first it was blowing me off around friends, then the communication was less and less. I havent had sex in months. He hardly looks ar me anymore, but still insists he loves me. I have ptsd and high anxiety from childhood abuse. He knows this and just ignores me if i try to talk to him. Meanwhile i am on a downward spiral .i lost my mom two years ago and she was my rock. I could talk to her about anything. I cant believe the selfishnessbehind all this. I feel like being here is doing more harm than good . He dosent get it. I have tried to getnhim to go to counselling and he wouldnt be honest. Any advice would be great

Hello there again

I mean this completely kindly and with warmth, but is it possible please to keep this to one thread? I find it hard to keep up with multiple threads on the same subject, and it's also useful for others to read and respond in one place. Thanks!

As Leed and I wrote in another thread, perhaps the husbands behaviour is pointing towards him having an affair. I do hope not, but it could explain some of his ways with you.

If it's not an affair, perhaps he needs to understand that saying he loves you isnt enough - actions speak louder than words. If he will not talk to you tho, I have no idea how this can be improved, sorry. Why do you say he wouldn't be honest in counselling?

Hugs

If he does not talk to you, how does he manage to convey that he still loves you?

And yes, you need to write to a moderator asking to consolidate your various threads.