[mister-a]

I have known for a while, but my best (and honestly, only) friend is moving over to australia (from england) in 6 days and tomorrow is the last time I will ever see him. I just don't know what to do I'm so scared for all of this, I know I'll cry so much when I leave after tomorrow because if I look back I know that will be the last time. Making new friends has always been difficult, and those that I have had came by just by luck, I have never been able to let go of anybody though inside ~ everyone is still there, just sort of missing.

I couldn't ever replace him, I would never want to, and I know I will never be able to let go, not even through decades. We are in a sort more than just friends too, he is the first person that ever kissed me (and the only) and that means so much I don't want anybody else ever to kiss me. We have not grown distant, just different, as the days have come closer to his leave, what can I do I can't face this, I'm not ready to

[roads]

mister-a, I'm so sorry you're losing someone so special from your life. Making a "best friend" is quite an undertaking, & to lose one heartbreaking. No one will ever replace him. I've lost a best friend, and although I was blessed with another best friend later in life it wasn't the same.
The only advice I can offer is to accept that this is will happen--nothing will change that. Be as gentle and giving with your friend as you can be in whatever time you have left with him. Make every moment you have together a good one to remember.
Try to stay in the present. Don't lose any time with him because you're thinking ahead to when he's already left. Once he's gone, try to again stay in the present. It will take some time for both of you to adjust to the new, different sort of relationship. Wait and see what develops.
Keep posting here. PsychCentral is a great place to connect and hang out. Get to know a few folks and see whether any of the forums feel like a fit for you. This one may work!
Take care & believe me--you'll find many others on this site who will understand how upsetting this experience is for you.
Roadie

[shezbut]

Gentle hugs to you, mister-a.

(((hugs)))

[hamster-bamster]

Originally Posted by mister-a

I have known for a while, but my best (and honestly, only) friend is moving over to australia (from england) in 6 days and tomorrow is the last time I will EVER see him.

I went through something like this in the late 1980s.

The guy moved from Moscow to Seattle. It was still the Iron Curtain / Cold War time and yes, I believed, at that time (we were both teens) that I would NEVER see him again. So yes, EVER / NEVER are difficult concepts to grasp. Very difficult.

It was outright horrible.

I did get to see him again after a few years and had a long distance relationship with a couple of get-togethers, but eventually we grew apart.

But in your case, it is 2013 and you are in England and the guy is moving to Australia.

- Not across the Iron Curtain
- Not to another galaxy
- Simply, to Australia.

So where does the tragedy part come from?

[BonnieG2010]

Originally Posted by mister-a

Making new friends has always been difficult, and those that I have had came by just by luck, I have never been able to let go of anybody though inside ~ everyone is still there, just sort of missing.

I couldn't ever replace him, I would never want to, and I know I will never be able to let go, not even through decades.

If making friends is difficult for you, you are sad for yourself. You feel lonely already.
But we live in years 2000 thank God: there is skype and those blessed blessed inventions that make the world come closer.

It is correct, you could never replace him: you don't replace friends, you just make new friends, that are different persons and are not supposed to fill a void, but just to be accepted as themselves.

You know, you sound quite tragic and I'm sorry about that, but if you never make friends, how come you made this one? And as you have this one, you will make more.

Why is the terrible fate pending upon you? which bad fairy said these words onto your cradle?
I guess no one. You are just saying this to yourself and so you make it come true. Just by believing it.

How about talking this out this a counselor? About this idea that you don't make friends, you never have friends still you have very good ones.