[EJ711]

Hi All,

I don't know what my husband's problem is lately, but at the rate we're going I'm not sure how things are going to hold together in the future. At this point we are married 33 years.

Today he had the nerve to tell my physican that I am getting up in the middle of the night and eating. I am on Ambien currently, and "sleep eating" is one of the side effects.

I've been telling my husband over and over for five years now that (1) I need to move b/c there is no safe place to exercise here, and (2) I don't like it here and feel depressed not being able to be around more people, and live in a normal neighborhood.

My online class starts in one week, and my "live" class in about 10 days. I have 23 enrolled in the first class, and 20 in macroeconomics.

Any support will be appreciated.

Hugs,

EJ

[bebop]

((((Jane))))) hon I am so sorry. I don't have any magic words for you hon but I am here for you.

[lenjan]

(((((((((((((((((((((((EJ))))))))))))))))))))

I have lived alone for half my life. Let me tell you, adjusting to living with people is a huge PITA. I don't know anybody it's not a struggle for, even people who have been married 33 years.

I don't have any words of wisdom, but I understand, at least a little, and I care.

Love, Candy

[abbidy]

Hey,
What is really important, is that you remember your worth as a person. I think is is really great that you have set yourself some goals, and your really trying. I think I have heard you talk about him before, and I am really frustrated for you. He seems to not be the most understanding of people, but just remember to that sometimes we can feel like people are being overly-critical of us, but it's because we're sensitive. I do this! Just work on taking care of yourself, you are worth it.
Abbidy

[Rhapsody]

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Today he had the nerve to tell my physican that I am getting up in the middle of the night and eating. I am on Ambien currently, and "sleep eating" is one of the side effects.

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I'm SORRY - but I am confused here.... how is looking out for you by informing your doctor of your problems (side effect of the med) putting your husband in the dog house - in hot water?

Help ME to understand....what did I miss? (or) what did you leave out?

LoVe,
Rhapsody - ((( hugs )))

[hillbunnyb]

Is there something else going on hon? I'm with Rhap, how is his checking in with your Dr, if he is concerned, a bad thing? Do you guys have a "butt out" deal or something?

Re: His not responding to your need to move, are you financially able? Maybe he knows something you don't about your financial situation, like you can't move, or maybe there's some other issue of his that is not on the table yet??? Do you guys sit down and discuss stuff?

[January]

(((((((((( Jane ))))))))))))

I've given you my opinion in private but I just wanted to remind you that I'm here for you.

Hugs,

Jan

[EJ711]

Rhapsody,

Husband didn't frame my getting up in the middle of the night to eat as sleep eating. It was like I was being bad.

All of the health concerns I had about him, I talked to him about first. He didn't do this with me.

I've cooled down since Monday.

Thanks for caring,

EJ

[EJ711]

Hi Hillbunny,

I'm the financial manager of the family. He is clueless about money. I try to discuss things with husband almost every day. He is uncomfortable communicating.

About moving, he's just plain stubborn. He LOVES it here.

I just appreciate you guys letting me vent.

EJ

[Rhapsody]

Hang in there..... all of us wives that have fought the fight are here for and with you.

LoVe,
Rhapsody - ((( hugs )))

[EJ711]

Thanks, Rhapsody.

Hugs,

EJ

[(JD)]

EJ, why not go looking for a house where YOU want to live? Since you handle the money anyway, maybe he doesn't have a clue as to how you could move and find a place that makes you both happy? Just begin the process...and see where that goes?

[desirae]

Hey Jane, just discovered this thread. I'm sorry that your going through a tough time. 33 years of marriage!, of course it's going to have it's tough spots. But worth working through, wouldn't you agree.

Don't let him discourage you on your weight, eating, and exercise habits. You do what makes you feel better, after 33 years of marriage, he's love you just the same. Or should at least.

Maybe hubby is going through his own stuff......did he ever get a job since the last one he left?

Once class starts your going to be a busy bee. Don't let the stress get to you hun.

I miss you Jane, I hope you are doing well. I start class tomorrow night. I'm taking three general courses, English 102, History 101, and my first Sociology class. I'm excited, sitting around all summer got to me.

We're both going to be busy.

I bet your an awesome teacher, I wish you were mine!

I hope by now things are a little smoother. I'm keeping you in my thoughts.

Mush mush love,