Dealing with Roommate/Moving Out - Any Advice?

First off, I would just like to say Good Evening to everyone! I am new here!

Now here is my issue, it may be a moot point now as I've already taken a significant step, but I'd still like some advice.

Well after dealing with several months of bull, my boyfriend and I finally have the means to move out and get our own place. Main reason is because of our roommate's girlfriend, whom he decided to move in, without letting us know, and also not make her share any of the house expenses, which we also were not aware of.

Other issues:

-With the exception of the last two weeks, she's been unemployed, so she is ALWAYS at the house.

-One day, HER friend stayed over, and I didn't realize that she did until I saw HER friend the next morning, in the kitchen, rummaging through the cabinets.

-When we first moved in back in August, our roommate said it was ok for my BF to bring his cats. Once the GF showed up and was around for a while, she took it upon herself to announce that our roommate doesn't like animals. She did this at a mutual friends party, in front of people we didn't know. Of course our roommate tried to save face and say "well its not that I dont like animals" and blah blah blah. It was very awkward and unnecessary for her bring that up in front of mutual friends and other people.

-When me, my BF, and our roommate are at work, she's in the house all day. And now that she's working, she leaves here to go to work. She comes back here when she leaves work. She has a key. I do not know if our roommate didn't think we'd notice the pattern, or maybe he simply didn't care.

-Lastly, the real owner is trying to sell the townhouse we live in. Our roommate did not tell us. My BF found out by overhearing a phone conversation between the owner and our roommate.

And we have had the issue to disappearing food since she arrived and also the cleanliness of the kitchen.

My BF is pretty fed up now, after months of telling him whats REALLY going on. For the record, this girlfriend was non-existent when we moved in. I do not want to live in a place with 4 adults, and only 3 are splitting the expenses. Obviously at the end of the day, our roommate can do what he wants. If he doesn't want to charge his GF rent, fine. But I do not think that is ok when you have roommates that are responsible for sharing the rent, BGE, and cable expenses, and she basically gets to live expense-free. So we decided to leave.

My BF told him today that we are leaving. Roommate didn't seem to care, based of what he said. Whereas my BF is trying to avoid a hostile confrontation(my BF and our roommate have been friends for a number of years), I'm still pretty irritated and I WANT to tell him why we are leaving. I want to tell him that I don't think it's right for him to move in his GF without telling us, and how I think it's wrong that he didn't bother to tell us that the owner is trying to sell the house by August. Should I say anything? I'll admit, I am blunt, straight to the point, and not the most respectful when dealing with folks I'm irritated with.

I understand your wanting to tell him WHY you are leaving, It won't change anything, If it were me I would just take the highroad and be very grateful to be moving away from a lopsided situation.

Good luck in your new home

I'm like you. It was ROTTEN for him to move her in without her sharing in the expenses -- at LEAST the food, utilities, etc. For Pete's sakes, why should SHE be able to live there totally FREE when the rest of you have to PAY for your share??

And her little tirade about not liking animals was totally uncalled for when it was done in front of a bunch of people!

Personally I'd WANT to tell him why we were moving out. I don't care if my BF didn't like it or not! I have a right to my opinion, right? And it was JUST as unfair to YOU as it was to your BF. Boy, it didn't even effect me, and it makes ME mad! LOL I cannot stand it when people are treated unjustly! I really get upset.

I'm so sorry this happened to you! In the future, don't let something like this go on without saying something. You'll continue to get walked on if you do. God bless and please take care! Hugs, Lee

^^^I agree 100%

I am quite infuriated, but I am doing the best I can to keep this off my mind. In general, I don't care who moved in, but they needed to kick in their share of utilities and we should have known before it was done.

I also forgot to mention that we have not seen a BGE or Comcast bill into two months. He normally places them on the table to we can see the amount and pay accordingly but he hasn't done that for the last two bill cycles. And like an idiot, I paid him my "full half" without seeing a bill. This is around the same time where I noticed his girlfriend coming in and out of the house with her own key.

I'm just like "what's up with all the secrecy?" We didn't care if your girlfriend moved in, but a major house change like that, we should have had a discussion about it. My boyfriend and I have been arguing about this for a few days. I was trying to get him to understand that he's withholding important information from us for no apparent reason. We didn't know the GF moved in, we haven't seen utility bills for 2 months, and we didn't know the real owner is trying to sell the townhouse. Something fishy is going on, and I just don't appreciate it at all.

I'll admit I did something pretty immature yesterday: I went into the kitchen, cleaned out the cabinets, got rid of any old food leftover in the fridge, and also packed up all my pots/pans and dishes(including the toaster and the filtered water jug). Petty, I know, but hey, the GF isn't paying any bills so she can go buy whatever dishes they may need. But...it made me feel better and I didn't yell at or insult anybody. Obviously, I was going to pack up that stuff eventually...just trying to re-direct my anger in a non-violent/threatening way.