I have been dating this guys for 6 months.
He broke up with his exwife after 12 years marriage 11 months ago.
When we met he told me that he was separate for more time than he really was.
He seemed to be the perfect guy. He was nice, understanding, kind and sweet. The only thing that wasn't good was sex. He has erection problems. He couldn´t function in bed.
We have spoken and he agreed to go and see a doctor, who prescribed viaga.
Our sexual life is very poor and he doesn´t even want to hear the world sex. He blamed his disc problems, then his prostate, then he said the watches too much porn.
He also gets upset at me for every little thing. We traveled together twice and he always gets very nervous for everything.
His ex dumped him and it seems like she wants them to be on constant contact. I know that she dumped him and told him she cheated.
I can't even pronounce her name, if I did once he got very upset. He defends her all the time against other people, even his own family.
One night he started speaking about her a lot at my house and I asked him to please change the subject. He got so upset and told me horrible things: Who you think you are he said. Do you think you are something special? I think you pretend all this kindness of your. You're a fake.
I asked him to leave my house. And next day he apologized saying that wasn't him. That the doesn't mean that, etc.
I know he's been rude feel days ago with his bosses wife and that he exploded his range at her too.
Thanks so much. And sorry for my poor English.

[hamster-bamster]

Erection problems are not an excuse to not want to hear the world sex and I once had a lover who had no erections whatsoever (probably from antidepressants) and we had daily sex and I had multiple orgasms daily/nightly because he still had his hands. And tongue, to some extent, though unfortunately I cannot come from oral sex.

In other words, as long as his hands have not been amputated, he has no excuse.

Also what he said about porn makes zero sense.

[Leed]

The way he is acting, I believe he hasn't gotten over his ex. If she demands that they stay in constant contact, I think she wants him back.

I think he's confused about his feelings for her. He hasn't even gotten divorced yet, has he? And if he hasn't why NOT?? If he hasn't divorced her, he must still have feelings for her, and he's confused. He MIGHT still care for her.

You're in a bad spot. If I were you, I'd ask him to make a choice. It's either YOU or her. One or the other, but he can't have both. Tell him that he should either get divorced, or else go back to her, but you don't want to live with someone else's husband! And that's what you're doing! If he's separated, you're still living with HER HUSBAND.

I wish you the very best -- but if it were me, I'd look for someone who could REALLY love me the way i deserved. And you deserved to be REALLY LOVED and cherished completely. He may have mental problems, and if he does then he should get counseling. God bless and please take care. Hugs, Lee

[~Christina]

If it were me I would just move on, you do not have much time invested.

He needs time to work through a marriage that ended, You really can't help him with that, no one can, It's work he needs to do.

Good luck with whatever you decide