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Jun 04, 2013, 12:24 AM
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I get off work around 10:30 at night and when I got home he wasn't here. I didn't try to text him till close to 12. He flips out that I texted him one time and he cussed me out and said I needed to chill my *** out. I only sent one text asking where he was at. I feel like he shouldn't have yelled at me for that. He comes home now long after talking to me with his friend and they are sitting in the room playing computer games now. When he walked in the door he said "here I am! Happy now! Can you see me?!" I told him it didn't matter to me if he was home now I just wanted to know where he was and he told me I needed to leave him alone. I only sent one text! This feels so suspicious to me. Why does he get so upset if I text or call him while I'm home and he is out? When I get off work he expects me to be home and times that I don't come home immediately I have to make sure he knows well in advance before I'm allowed to do anything. He doesn't even let me go to work more than an hour early without being suspicious of me but he can go where ever he wants without having to tell me anything? Is it me or is this unfair?
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 anonymous91213, littlebitlost, spondiferous
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Jun 04, 2013, 02:48 AM
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He sounds controlling and Id get out of this asap.
My boyfriend and I will just text one another about our werabouts and an approx time for getting home. Neither of us have been upset about abrupt change of plans. It happens. |
 littlebitlost
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Jun 04, 2013, 03:19 AM
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I've been there, and only have 1 word in response to such controlling and disrespectful behaviour: RUN!
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| littlebitlost
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Jun 04, 2013, 10:28 AM
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I agree...don't spend the rest of your life with this guy....RUN NOW. You deserve better! Oh' and "I think he doth protest too much" which means the best defense is an offense...he probably was up to no good!!
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| littlebitlost
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#5
Jun 04, 2013, 10:45 AM
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Run for the Hills!!!!!he conrtolling and abusive and you'll just dig a hole deeper and deeper if you keep seeing this person!!
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Jun 04, 2013, 12:03 PM
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You might be better off ending things and moving on to a more respectful releationship. If you insist on staying then you need to stand up for yourself. There shouldn't be a double standard and if you get aggressive or mean to you, you have the right to tell him to stop or leave. The longer his behaivor goes on and unchecked the worse it will get. Controlling people and abusive people aren't too different and you may find yourself in a very unhelthy releationship if you continue to get yourself walked over. You deserve the same respect and human dignity he does, and him yelling at you over one text is excessive and throws a red flag to me.
Take care of yourself and remember you have the same rights and value as he does. Don't forget yourself.
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Jun 06, 2013, 03:12 PM
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I agree with previous comments, even if he is not cheating on you I had a long discussion with my bf over texting me if he will be late so I know to hold off on dinner and so I don't worry. It's common courtesy to your partner to let them know so they won't worry. One text and he got upset? If talking to him doesn't work, if he won't understand, he is better off with someone else who won't care
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Jun 06, 2013, 03:40 PM
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the job description(JD) of being a boyfriend is that they worship the ground you walk on, crave the air you breathe and love every bone in your body. they shoud adore everything about you and be prepared to give everything to make you happy and protect you. any guy who can not, will not or does not adhere to the JD is not worth spending your time with.
there is one man out there in the big wide world who will be willing to adhere to the JD and that is the man for you not this waste of space you are presently wasting your life away with. |
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Jun 06, 2013, 05:56 PM
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What bothers me the most about your post is the use of the word 'allow', as in him 'allowing' you to do something. You are not property. He is not your owner. No relationship should be like that. You deserve better. And it will only get worse if you stay. Good luck.
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| littlebitlost, tigerlily84
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Jun 06, 2013, 07:46 PM
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Quote:
RUN! RUN FOR THE HILLS ASAP!
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