Have had enough with my friends/roommates. What to do?

I am from Cleveland OH and that is where all my friends and family are. I served 4 years in the navy and when I separated I decided to stay away from my hometown and stay out here in California with two of my "close friends" from OH. It is a guy and a girl who are in a relationship. They've been together for as long as I've known them which is about 6 years or so.

Anyway, we've all been living together for about 6 months now and I am absolutely fed up to the point where I don't want to be friends or even associate with them anymore. I have gotten so sick of California in general and my living situation with these "friends" that I decided to leave early and move back home to OH in about a month from now. Ever since we've lived together, I have seen a different side of these guys that I really dislike. They have been super selfish and disrespectful toward me the whole time. Everything has always gone their way and I always just bite my tongue and go along with them just to avoid any arguments or conflicts.

The whole time living together, they've constantly been judging me and pointing fingers at me for every little thing I do wrong, but in their minds, they're "polite and nice" about it. They nit pick and find any little thing I do wrong and point it out to me and ask me to fix it. It's always real stupid things like sometimes I may leave a dirty dish in the sink overnight and wash it the next day and they over exaggerate and confront me and ask me if I could please quit leaving dirty dishes in the sink for days. So I avoid any arguments and oblige and correct that problem. Then they say I leave the dishes in the drying rack for too long and ask me to fix that, so I politely acknowledge and oblige. They have constantly been picking me apart for everything I do wrong and everything that they don't like. There are so many things that they do that I hate, but I just get over it because that is how they are. I don't point it out and blame them for anything.

Then recently, I was confronted by them and asked to quit leaving "big messes in the kitchen" which I honestly don't have any idea what they're talking about. That was the comment that pushed me over the edge and made me not want to be friends with them anymore. That comment turned into a huge argument where of course he was right and I was wrong and according to him "I don't know what I'm talking about" and that I constantly leave these imaginary messes that he always has to clean up, etc.

I honestly just don't know what to do about these guys. I am so furious and we haven't even talked to each other since that argument and honestly, I have no intentions on talking to them again until I leave. This attitude of theirs has been going on the whole time we've lived together and I always just bowed down to them and bit my tongue and let them have their way and just accepted that I am always "wrong" in their minds. I finally got sick of them pushing me around and judging me and lashed out and told them how it is, yet I'm still wrong and they're perfect and unflawed. Such selfish and judgmental people. They are always too busy judging me and blaming me that they don't ever take a look at themselves and realize that they're not perfect people like they believe they are. What do I do about this? Just put them behind me and move on with my life without worrying about them? It's just such a shame that I've seen a different side of these people that I hate and don't ever want to see again. The bad part is that I don't have anyone out here other then those two, so I'm constantly stuck by myself just thinking about all this.

Why not sit them down, like adults, and tell them that you realize that for SOME reason, unbeknownst to you, you irritate them. You don't do it intentionally, and from what they tell you, the things you've done are quite menial and yet they seem to REALLY irritate the daylights out of them! You'd like to know why they get so upset with you!! You might point out some of THEIR little idiosyncrasies that drive YOU NUTS, yet you've politely NEVER said one word about them due to trying to keep peace in the household.

So with that being said, you'd just like to know what in #$#% is their problem!

What do you think? LOL Hugs, Lee

Hey thanks alot. That does seem like the mature thing to do, but for some odd reason I just feel like it would turn into an argument and end up getting turned around on me. I have already tried to point things out to him that he does wrong, but he gets all defensive and tries to prove me wrong and he ends up coming out on top.

It's just real annoying. Maybe I'll give it a few days to cool off or something.