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Jul 13, 2013, 01:02 AM
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Hi !, last year I got married and after the 3rd month of my marriage things started going bad, I passed 8 years before i married my husband, and our relationship was not quite worth it, always arguing, he also use to cheat on me and when i tried to get up the topic he will always refuse to talk about it or neglect, anyway when he proposed it was my birthday...and we were already 6 years together, when he proposed he ended up saying that it was all true re-cheating, so you may imagine how i felt!!! i tried my best to stop the relationship but to no avail
 ...we got married and there were things got worse, no communication at all!, when we suppose to be alone at home he use to eat,drink and sleep....and when i tried to tell him something he use to shout,and be agressive also, leading up to a big fight were physical abuse was also done, to tell all the truth he was already like that before marriage and yes i know i did a mistake not leaving before..!! anyway after 9 months i told him to stop our marriage and go for seperation, i did so because every time we use to argue i did all my best to go a speak with someone professional but again he refuses, i also suggested anger caourse but again he refused, therefore my marriage only lasted for 9months......The most part that it is leading me to be guilty is that after i left from his home i cheatted on him and after a couple of weeks i started a relationship, (you may say im a totally *****) but i felt that my love for him had vanished , what can i do?? im most of the time moody, been almost 9 years with mood swings and i dont know if it is because of my situation re-relationship or a hormonal problem or a mental problem i really wish that this time pass cos it's leading me to end my life..
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Jul 13, 2013, 03:02 PM
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You do not report anything remotely justifying your plan to end your life. Since the marriage is not good, leave the guy. Get a T to discuss suicidality and a history of making bad choices. to the extent that there might be a mental problem/hormonal problem/mood swings, get a psychiatrist as well, to discuss things. Stop using words like ***** in describing yourself. If you like the new relationship, continue with it. If you do not like it, do not continue with it.
There is no point in telling HIM to stop your marriage. Just file for divorce. It is not a good marriage so there is nothing to salvage and no need to waste money on anger courses. Dumping a person who has major anger issues is much more effective than putting him through an anger course even if he complies and attends. Much more effective. |
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Jul 13, 2013, 09:44 PM
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Hi Imqarba
Welcome to Psych Central. It sounds like you have really struggled for a long time. I know your husband refused counseling but it sounds like you could really benefit from the help of a good therapist to assist you in sorting out your mood swings and the abuse you have been through. you will find lots of support here on PC. Again, welcome. |
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Jul 15, 2013, 06:12 AM
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