[Denim121]

Hi,
My boyfriend of 2yrs+ broke up with me 10 days ago.We were having constant arguments for 5 weeks before that.I think its due to the fact that we took each other for granted and we stopped communicating well.The night we broke up he said he was too frustrated to continue our relationship. He blames me for breaking up our good communication pattern we had,I blame him.He is the type of person that just shuts down when he gets frustrated or stressed. I would like to save my relationship because I love him deeply. I know he loves me as well.But due to how he is now....frustrated..its like talking to a wall. So I had decided to stop contacting him after the break up and give him space to think and relax.However,it has been 10 days,I dont know where to go from here.We have shared an amazing 2 years.I think it is too much to throw away for something that we can fix,i.e.,how we communicate. Based on the type of person he is,what do I do from here? Do i just wait for him to contact me? Or do I give it some time? people keep telling me if he loves me he will come back but.....im not the type to sit around waiting and hoping things will happen. But in this case,I dont know what to do and im scared of losing the man I love forever.We are both in our early 20s by the way,had planned on buying a house soon and getting married next year. I dont want to give up on the man I love.

[dannyisaninja]

hey denim, me and my ex gf of 3 years just split for good about a month ago. I know where your coming from, constant arguments, fighting over nothing half the time and not being able to communicate. We took each other for granted too id say.

After everything ive gone through and what im going through now, i realize that i have too grow up some. If you really love this guy, i think giving yourself the opportunity to grow and better yourself is the best plan of action.

Maybe your both not emotionally mature for the relationship yet, maybe thats why your communication fails but i think if you grow a bit and let him realize what hes lost while also letting him grow too. You can get what you want in the end.

im 26 and i wanna marry K (my ex) but she sees me like a fool and is frustrated after so many upsets with me, so trying now would only be futile.

take your time with it, and let life bring you what may- i know it sounds stupid, trust me im hard headed.... K dumped me over 30 times and i kept going back because i loved her and i wanted to be with her, but i never took into account her frustration and why it was coming up until today - i just need to change my life and my expectations of others and just mature a bit.

Maybe thats what you and your dude need too, dont rush it girl... if you do it might just blow up again, just do you! Focus on your things and really give it serious time and dont beg for him back.

i begged after a 9month break and got her back but i never changed cause i spend those 9 months crying about her- dont wallow and run in the same place like i did.

be strong denim! its attractive! lol

Good luck!

[Denim121]

Thank you Dannyisaninja
I did that on our last night.I could sense he was going to break up with me so my last plan of action was,to cry lol. That did nothing as you can see.So now im here trying to accept the fact that we are done which is hard because when you have been with someone for so long it becomes a routine to be with them,literally feel like half of me is missing. I cry at times because I just want to hold him one more time. Friends keep telling me to focus on myself and what is meant to be will be. I want to try that but its really difficult.
I have not contacted him since in the hope of giving us time to clear our heads (slightly hoping he will miss me
I know begging for him back is the wrong thing to do so I have no choice actally but to just take care of me
I hope K comes back to you in time as I hope my love will come back to me in time. Until then, we should take care of ourselves
Good luck with everything!

danny's advice is solid, IMO - I don't have any words to add. Just wanted to let you know that you are in my thoughts. Give him space and take care of you. The rest will take care of itself.