[SPislandgirl]

I've been in a loving relationship with my lover for 17 months now and we've decided to seriously plan a future together. We are semi retired, ages 49 (me) and he is 54, and are very supportive of each others needs and goals. He is an investment banker and I work part-time on an internet business. He does make significantly more than I do, I just discovered this as we were discussing our financial situations recently. We don't spend a lot of money, but live comfortably. As we were going over the topics necessary to plan a future together such as the ideal home life together, we were being extremely honest about some of our expectations and ideal situations. I like to go out and socialize once a week, cook dinner most nights, do yoga and walk on the beach most days/nights and spend a lot of time together. We both enjoy the same things and agree on the day to day rituals. He said he would also would like for me to simply meet him at the door when he arrives from the office wearing lingerie once in a while or as often as I'd like and to please don't ever withhold love from him. We do have a great sex life and we are very affectionate with each other. He wants to add extra communication time to the mix so that we wont have to waste precious time together with miss-understandings. He is always encouraging me to tell him how to make me happy and to let him know what I want.
This all seems so perfect and we are very happy together. Does anyone think that I may be missing something here? I guess I think this is too good to be true since my first marriage of 28 years was quite the opposite of this relationship.

[QUOTE=2sexy4dayjob;3255542 and to please don't ever withhold love from him.[/QUOTE]

The only thing that seems like a red flag in my mind is that statement...unless you (or he) misspoke, he is literally saying you don't have the permission to say "no". And if that's true, he's not someone you'd want to be around.

Also, if it feels too good to be true, often it is...unfortunately. Maybe evaluate why you feel like it's too good to be true (as objectively as possible)

[Perna]

I married my husband when I was 39 and he, 46 and we have been living happily ever after ever since, are now 63 and 70 and retired; I don't see anything wrong with your scenario!

[Anika.]

Hmm my little ticker went off on that statement as well. Do.you know why he would even bother to say that? You said you have a great sex life which to me implies no reason to even be thinking of that let alone saying it. Was his previous relationship one of that? Either way to not withhold ever does sound like you can not say no ever. That's not ok. Nope. He may have miss used words , but the train of thought that brought him to those words, I would not see that as careing. Quite the opposite. But you did say love, you did not say he said sex. Just not sure what he means with that.

Also just from what you said here, you seem to be talking life in general, he seems to be focused on sex. Hard to know with what you have given us. That's just what I am getting from what you wrote.

I think there is a reason you are wondering and asking here, maybe you need to have some talks with him. I'm not saying it's too good to be true, but you may want to get some clarifications on what his expectations really are and what exactly never withholding means. Maybe it isnt really anything at all. Maybe it just is that good. It can happen and why not for you as well?

[Jolisse]

I say stop over analyzing your relationship. You've been with the man for 17 months, he sounds as if he wants the relationship to work.
Withholding love can be taken many ways and I wouldn't assume the worst. It appears you have a great relationship, relax and enjoy it.