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Sep 17, 2013, 02:06 PM
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My family is very religious and are really into the whole lets get married thing. It's not to say I don't want to get married I mean my fiance and I do want to. But I feel like its a sham if you have to rush to get married. Yes we have been together for three years but, I really believe it takes more then three years to really know someone. We have a lot going for us me being 24 and him being 28 were still relativly young. Is it really wrong to want to be in a place where we can afford to have the wedding of our dreams and have it be the most memorable and happy day?
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Sep 17, 2013, 03:23 PM
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I think it's wise to wait until you feel ready to get married. You'll be the ones in the marriage, not your family.
However, I don't think you should obsess about the wedding and focus on that and not the relationship. |
 turquoisesea
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Sep 17, 2013, 03:29 PM
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I appreciate your advice and I also agree with you on the relationship part. Honestly thats the most important part to me right now. We have been learning more and more about eachother each day theres alway new experiences in life that can cause us to learn something new. He and I are working on our communication so that we are always honest with eachother and never hide any ill feelings from eachother .I really believe that having an open line of communication is so important. I would never want to think that I might have said or done something stupid that ways heavily on his mind. Especially if I didn't know that he could talk to me. Whats a relationship without communication after all.
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Sep 17, 2013, 04:02 PM
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If waiting, feels right, then by all means, wait!
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Sep 17, 2013, 05:29 PM
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I agree - it's not wrong to wait. Are you engaged? I have some friends who got engaged, but held the wedding off 2 years. Thing with engagement, is that the inlaws get involved, and you get a better taste of if you're 100% sure or not - I agree it can take time to know someone but the engagement process will ALSO help you gain some perspective. That being said, this is advice my mother gave me once ... I've never gotten engaged myself so take my thoughts with a grain of salt!
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