Four year relationship ended

I wasn't happy, I knew deep down we weren't making it. I didn't want to break up with him but I didn't want to be with him either, I cried myself to sleep because I didn't know what to do. I wound up meeting someone I was interested in and broke up with my bf, even though I don't want to be with this guy either bc I just don't want relationships anymore. Now I am still miserable anyway and I want my ex to just disappear. I wish he never happened. I have to see him at work and with this new stupid chic he's with and I just can't deal with it. This and other things going on.... Honestly I just want to go to sleep and not wake up.

I am not suicidal. Promise.

So sorry you are dealing with this matter. I'm sure it would be hard to see an "ex" with someone else. However, remember that you did not want him anymore, and there might be just the right guy out there for you at some point.

You also might find therapy helpful as you work through this break-up and your depression. Okay?

I had to work with my ex-bf too. It gets a lot easier over time, trust me. Just don't look at him in the eye ever and absorb yourself in your work. Act like you don't even notice him. If he tries to provoke you or anything, just smile and say something nice, then move somewhere else.

I'm sorry it had to end the way it did! I hope you feel better soon!

That is a tough situation but, Lmats, had some good ideas. It will take a little while but you will get past this. Just don't pick someone else up to fill the void, instead work through the void and come out stronger.

Yes try to work through this situation by not acting like you're interested anymore, but sometimes we have to be careful doing that because the other person feels rejection and may want to get back, so make sure your firm and consistant just so they don't think they can have you anymore! I hope you don't jump right in with this new guy, or at least let him know you don't want a relationship right now. my best years in my life were when i was "free" and making it on my own and doing things on my own terms, it's so hard,i find, to always have to think about someone else in marriage, like i am now. don't get me wrong, i love my husband, but sometimes wish i could get a little more space, especially since i have a son too. Good Luck and have a nice day!!!!