[shattered222]

My mom has been diagnosed with depression, but I believe she has other disorders. She also has other conditions RA and degenerative back disease that require a pain pump and other. She moved in with me after she found out her boyfriend was cheating on her. She's also in legal trouble as her ex has accused her of taking his property. I had to find her an attorney and come up with money I don't have.

I recently went through a bad break up with my fiancee and am about to lose my job. My mental state is not good either. We are like fire together. We got into a huge fight because her meds make her think I have bugs. She sees bugs everywhere. She will pick them up and when I look at them they are tiny bits of grass and dirt. In 3 days she went through 3 bottles of ammonia, 2 bottles of bleach and a few bottles of household cleaner as well as bug spray. I have an extra room, but it doesn't have a bed so she's now decided to sleep on The floor. This is crazy and I've begged her to go back to The sofa.
She has no where else to go as she's driven everyone crazy with The bug stuff. She gets in some money, but that's all going to The attorney right now. She doesn't come out of The room much and refused to eat food out of my fridge. I've asked her to seek help but she won't. She has mentioned wanting to die just about everyday. This is very unhealthy for The both of us. I just don't know what to do. I can barely take care of myself! Any suggestions?

[hannabee]

oh my...sounds stressful for you. My thoughts and prayers go out to you. I've never had to deal with such a situation before but, if it were me, I think I would call a suicide prevention hotline for some advice. It sounds like your mom is a danger to herself and that she needs medical attention and intervention with the meds she is taking. I would also enlist the help of whatever family SHE has, as you need help dealing with this NOW. Good luck and my prayers go out to you. I hope some senior members here will have some advice for you!

[~Christina]

Her pain meds could be too high and causing some of the issues .. Maybe she needs an adjustment on depression meds and her pain meds as they can cause depression to worsen.

Good luck you are in a tough spot .. make sure you to take time for you .

[happiedasiy]

Originally Posted by shattered222

My mom has been diagnosed with depression, but I believe she has other disorders. She also has other conditions RA and degenerative back disease that require a pain pump and other. She moved in with me after she found out her boyfriend was cheating on her. She's also in legal trouble as her ex has accused her of taking his property. I had to find her an attorney and come up with money I don't have.

I recently went through a bad break up with my fiancee and am about to lose my job. My mental state is not good either. We are like fire together. We got into a huge fight because her meds make her think I have bugs. She sees bugs everywhere. She will pick them up and when I look at them they are tiny bits of grass and dirt. In 3 days she went through 3 bottles of ammonia, 2 bottles of bleach and a few bottles of household cleaner as well as bug spray. I have an extra room, but it doesn't have a bed so she's now decided to sleep on The floor. This is crazy and I've begged her to go back to The sofa.
She has no where else to go as she's driven everyone crazy with The bug stuff. She gets in some money, but that's all going to The attorney right now. She doesn't come out of The room much and refused to eat food out of my fridge. I've asked her to seek help but she won't. She has mentioned wanting to die just about everyday. This is very unhealthy for The both of us. I just don't know what to do. I can barely take care of myself! Any suggestions?

You have my prayers, I would not spend any money on an attorney, this is a civil issue, unless its grand larceny.
I would call social services and see what help they can offer.
A short hospital stay to get her meds adjusted, if she can't live on her own she may need to be placed in assisted living facility.
I know you must love your Mother but I think the extra room should go to a roommate to help pay for rent. You shouldn't enable moms behavior, it will only get worse. This is unhealthy for YOU, please take time for yourself

I couldn't save my mother and had to put her in the hospital psych ward.
I felt like I failed her but I didnt. I could not get her to eat/shower/take her meds and I just had my daughter. I did my best.

Know this some people are too far gone, get her the best help you can, and you must live your life
Please keep in touch,
Happiedasiy

[shattered222]

Thank you for all of The advise. She ended up leaving yesterday before I could get her checked into somewhere. I feel really bad, but you guys are right. I can't save her. I love her very much and am worried about her. She didn't tell me where she was going or anything. Please keep us in your prayers.