[Danny 123456]

Hey guys

I'm really really really close to break point with my relationship with my current girlfriend and I just want some advice, help, support and someone to listen, I won't bore you with the whole life story of how everything came to be but I'll put it in a nut shell; I was on training with my company when I met my girlfriend and we instantly clicked and we were getting on fine we were both at the end of our relationships and we were both single at the same time a few weeks after, we spoke for 6 months then decided to meet she has 2 kids I've met the youngest about 6 times and the eldest 3 times, he calls me and loves speaking to me, they both really like me.

Anyway since it took her 6 months to get over her abusive relationship and meet me, everything was fine we had no issues silly little arguments but nothing major. Anyway over the the last few months I've found her mood swings really nasty she will be fine for a while then with the snap of a finger horrid to me saying some really nasty things trying to hurt me saying we are over and what not accusing me of things and swearing at me telling me to shut up... But when we are together she is NEVER like this, but when we are apart she's even saying she wishes she was dead and that she hates her life... She's being really suicidal in what she ses I dunno what to do...

I really don't understand any of it she was never like this yeah she could be a handful but nothing that I couldn't handle. But now I'm at the end of my tether I'm back on anti depressants and I can't handle and more messing around or heart break I'm 25 I'm not a bad looking guy and I'm a really romantic man, I just feel so attached and in love and the kids really like me and she's great in the bedroom department she really is.

All of these moods start to change she was saying that she will leave me after a while I said okay before that I'd get really upset then and that's kinda stopped and it's this whole suicidal thing... I'm at my witts end, I know she isn't well ATM with something that's not nice down below but it wouldn't cause this kind of nasty ness, would hormone tablets do it?

Thanks for listening sorry was a short version if things but I'm fed up of crying

Danny
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[Rose3]

Hi Danny - you sound like you want things to improve, and you're finding positive things about this relationship, and you're feeling in love too. But she's being so nasty, and saying that she'll leave you. This would be hurtful and confusing. Does she realize how hurt you feel? Some people who behave in this way - they lash out at the people who care about them, and maybe they actually care a lot too - but they aren't communicating appropriately, and then they hurt the ones around them. Is it possible for both of you to go to a counsellor or therapist for relationship counselling, so that you both can explain what's going on, and work on what you both would like to happen (in the present and in the future), and maybe work on ways to make some changes that would result in two happier people? I'm sure that it isn't very nice to be treated in such a nasty manner. Maybe she doesn't realize how nasty she is?

[Travelinglady]

Danny, I don't blame you for wanting to break up with her. As you are seeing, she is not good for you. I honestly think you should move on and try to find someone who is emotionally healthy.