[JLP215]

Okay, its a long story, but I'll try to make it short.

There's a guy that I love very much, and we're kind of together. I have relationship anxiety issues, so we took a break for a while, but I still love him. He's a great guy, and he'd be awesome to spend the rest of my life with, but I'm just not sure he's "the one." I'm a lot younger than he is too, so its a little weird sometimes, but overall, its good.

Here's where it gets complicated. There's another guy that I am very attracted to. He is sexy, and we get along very well. I hadn't really considered him as an option before (he's even older than the other guy), but he started flirting with me and telling me he wants me. I want him too.... Thing is, he's married.

So.... what do I do? I've been (harmlessly) flirting with Guy 2, but I really do love Guy 1 (in a less sexual way). I guess I know that things with Guy 2 wouldn't work out, but its a possibility I sort of want to explore. But I don't want to lose Guy 1 in the process.

Any advice? (I'm guessing the majority of the responses will be "Don't mess with a married man".... And they'll probably be right.) Thanks everyone!

[gayleggg]

You're right that would be the best advice. Because once you go down that road Guy 1 will never be the same if he finds out and you will never feel as close to him again because Guy 2 will always be between you even if you don't tell him. I understand very well where you are coming from. Been there. Lost the only man I still deeply love. Be very careful and don't think with you sexual attraction it will get you in trouble every time.

[Lonely_90]

( I watch to much lifetime )

I understand the attraction to guy #2, hes attractive, fun to flirt with, and you are curious, but think about it IF something was to happen with guy #2 there would be more feelings, and maybe "infatuation", then it will roll into you want him to leave his wife for you, ( which will not happen) then you will end up hurt, I think it would be best to nip this in the bud, harmless flirting leads to feelings ( middle school crush) you like that such an older attractive man is paying you attention.

On the other hand, you are nervous guy #1 is not the one. If he was the one you would know, you love him but are you IN love with him.

it sounds like it might be time to be alone for a little while, figure out who you are and what you want out of life.

( I didnt want to say this, but think about if you were married, would you want your husband out flirting with someone else )