[MeganMariah72]

I previously wrote a post about my boyfriend and I and how my boyfriend seems to want to have sex a lot more than I do... practically every time we are alone or in bed.

This is my story that happened tonight:

I had a job interview down by where he lives so I stopped by afterwards to see him and we got lunch at a restaurant. On the drive back to his place we both agreed on a time that I should start heading back to my town because its 50 minutes away and I needed to be at my best friends house by 8 because it was her birthday and her mom was making a cake. We both agreed that I would leave by 6:30 because I needed to get home and change.

When we got back to his place, my head was hurting pretty bad so we took a nap for 45 minutes and woke up at 6:16. I told him that I should start getting ready to go and as I tried getting out of bed, he hugged me and said, "How about we make love now?"

I told him, "No, im sorry... I really need to get going." - I did this in a sweet voice/tone... not at all a hurtful one.

He said, "Thats not a good excuse." So I told him, "I'm sorry but I'm also not in the mood.. " He then tells me that it wasn't nice that I told him No because I needed to leave and proceeds to tell me that I am giving my best friend more attention than I am to him. (Let me tell you, I spend most of my time with him. Thursdays through Sundays I am with him the whole time because he has class the other days. I made a visit to him today-Tuesday (his class was cancelled) because I wanted to see him and since I was right by where he lives I thought hey, perfect!- I hardly see my best friend anymore and it was her birthday!)

I needed to leave to be there on time, I didn't want them to wait for me to sing happy birthday! I never see her as it is.

We then started arguing because he said I wasn't being nice and that "I" was being selfish. He did not like the fact that I said, "No im sorry, but I should start leaving now." <--- What is wrong with that? Im so lost. He said we could have done something in those 10 minutes before I needed to leave and he said I should want to be late for him.

I'm sorry, but I am not a peice of meat! He was just mad because I said no and he was wanting it the whole time I was there, but he left it for the last minute.
He knew I needed to leave! Am I wrong here? I did not have sex with him by the way.. I left and 3 hours later, after I got back from my best friend's house, he called me and continued the argument! He was making me feel guilty because I said no! He is so stubborn all the time. I hate drama. I Don't know what to do... we hung up mad at each other because I couldn't take it anymore. It was like trying to get through to a wall. This is like this every argument. He makes something so small into something BIG or nothing into something. He looveess arguing... its like every single thing I say can never be right. It's my opinion! Why can't I be right at least sometimes? I could say the most simple thing and he will come back and said No... Its not that, its this. He has a thick skull.

I'm sorry for my rant.. I am just really upset because I don't know what to do about his stubborness and him making me feel like I am wrong all the time (Like when I said no to sex).

[Perna]

There is no right or wrong to what you want (or what he wants). Don't get into an argument about what you want. If it is "not a good excuse" the response is, "No, it's not, it's not an excuse at all, it is just what I am doing next." If he thinks he can guilt you into doing what he wants, why should he stop trying to do that? If he wants to stew in his own juices, that's his decision (making something small into something big). Keep clear what you want for your life as you are living it.

[Aladamna]

How frustrating it must be to be you in all these arguments! I find myself getting annoyed on your behalf!

Originally Posted by MeganMariah72

its like every single thing I say can never be right. It's my opinion! Why can't I be right at least sometimes?

Have you tried talking with him about this pattern? No one is always right, after all. Ask him if he can remember an argument when he conceded that you were right about something and he therefore changed his opinion accordingly. He can argue until he is blue in the face about who is right in each specific argument, but if you zoom out and look at the bigger picture, can he point to evidence that he ever respects your input enough to concede a point of yours?

If not, what does that say about his feeling of superiority in the relationship? Is that someone you want to be dating - someone who believes he is always right?