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Nov 05, 2013, 06:08 PM
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Well, myself, my father AND my therapist have a suspicion that my mother has narcissistic personality disorder, though we know she will never change or seek help. This morning she showed me a beautiful black lace dress and told me she was going to buy it to wear to my wedding. I'm not getting married right now...I'm not even engaged OR living with my boyfriend. I told her it wasn't worth it to spend 400 hundred dollars on this dress before I'm even planning a wedding and I also reminded her that I wanted to wear a black dress to my wedding (I'm having it on halloween..day of the dead themed). She said okay, she won't buy it.
She calls me up a few hours later to tell me that she bought the dress. I'm really furious and told her that she knew I wanted a black dress and we can't both wear one. Her explanation was "I never wore a gown, I didn't have a wedding". So I asked her "Does that mean you get to make my wedding all about you then?", She laughed and said "yes" but then quickly said she was just joking and "we'll buy you even nicer one". I don't get it. Why won't she take anything I say into account? Why must it always be about her..not to mention we haven't paid the mortgage in 8 months so spending 400 dollars so frivolously makes no sense.
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Allie Diagnosed: Generalized Anxiety Disorder & Obsessive Compulsive Disoder. Previous: Borderline Personality Disorder. I no longer qualify for a diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder, but there will always be my borderline traits that I struggle with especially during times of great stress. I've been working passionately as a therapist since December 2016
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 BlueSoup, tealBumblebee, Travelinglady
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Nov 05, 2013, 08:30 PM
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If she is indeed a narcissist, then yes, it is all about her, by definition. Her song is stuck on one note: "Mi, mi, mi." (Me, me, me.) My mom is suspected to be one, too. Does she seem to want to live through you---taking credit and pride in your accomplishments way beyond what seems normal? (And getting mad if you do things that she thinks reflect badly on her?)
I am so sorry she is trying to steal your thunder. Perhaps it would be best from now on that you don't tell her about your hopes and dreams.....She will not be able to be a mother that you can have a "normal" relationship with, alas. 
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 atomicc, tealBumblebee
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Nov 06, 2013, 01:22 AM
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I'm sorry. Ugh how infuriating! Awesome wedding idea though����
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Nov 06, 2013, 07:39 PM
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 Yeah, it's a shame but I'm starting to keep more of myself from her.
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Allie Diagnosed: Generalized Anxiety Disorder & Obsessive Compulsive Disoder. Previous: Borderline Personality Disorder. I no longer qualify for a diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder, but there will always be my borderline traits that I struggle with especially during times of great stress. I've been working passionately as a therapist since December 2016
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