For those with exes and trying to move on

Hey everyone. I am trying to move on from an ex. I'm sure there are millions who are like me. I'm going to share my thoughts about it right now, as I am trying to move on. Not sure if I can post this in this particular forum, but hey, it's about exes, right? And that's under relationships...I guess.

Earlier today, as I try to write my feelings down, I came up with this:

"There will always be a place in your heart for him. Just keep it locked up forever.

All those feelings of hurt, anger, angst, regret, sadness, depression, waste, keep it all together in a ball of negativity, and lock it up. Don’t tell anyone about it. (by anyone I meant my family and friends, PC doesn't count though) Because it will always be there, and it doesn't mean you have to keep on revisiting it and see if you can change it. It won’t. Your feelings for him will always be there. And it’s okay to have those feelings. It’s normal. Take it as an opportunity to be stronger. You DON'T want to be with him. Remember that. Don't change that thought.

Think about what you did, and your reactions, your actions, and everything that was related to this experience, and see what you can learn from it, in terms of friendships, feelings, and your own personality. Learn from it, and don’t stop learning from this important life lesson. It’s okay to not be in a relationship with him. It’s alright to have feelings. It’s okay. It’s normal."

And any thoughts or opinions, sharing your experience, will be most helpful.

Well written. Speaks to your growth. There's something to be learned from every relationship. It spoke to me. Reminded me, of recovering from my long term hs/college exbf.

I just told my ex he isn't worth it, he wuz going back and
forth w me and another. i sent his *** gone. i also said
never coming back. when he is alone or lonely, he calls. bull.

I have issues with rejection, and even though not being with my ex is the best decision, I can't stand the feeling that I wasn't good enough to make him happy. I want to fix it... My family wants me to run (including my kids) but I still miss him... Moving on is proving to be more difficult than I thought it would be.

Good luck to you!

Don't ever think you're not good enough. You tried your best. And yes, moving on is difficult. Very. Especially when you cannot control your feelings. If the best decision is to not be with him, then stick with it. Best of luck in your endeavours too!