Single and morning wood driving me insane!

Oh my god, just hire an escort. Also, get over yourself and start masturbating like the rest of us.

Did it ever occur to you that there are women out there whom you would not want to sleep with, who might think that you're the man for the job? What if they got all butthurt when you turned them down? I'm guessing that your sense of entitlement only goes one direction.

Sorry, is this suggesting that females never go through the equivalent? Study up on your biology, buddy. I swore for years that sometimes I was "interested" to the point where it hurt if there was no option to satisfy that, but of course all the males around me shouting "blue balls" because women cruelly turn them on get a sympathetic ear.
Turns out a woman's body still had secrets to reveal as late as the year 2009. You are not the only person to experience arousal while alone; according to the math presented in other posts I think you are about thirty years old. You need to learn to deal with this, basically, by this point.

Is your recommendation that a woman sleep with you when she doesn't want to? I can't even process that notion.

Err... You write of double standards.
You clearly have certain things you want out of a relationship. When a woman has specific things and only pursues those things... there is something wrong with that?

My suspicion is that you misrepresent yourself from the beginning and then get frustrated.

Well, then you'll have to suffer?
If you are uncomfortable with touching yourself I kind of wonder if your are ready for real quality physical intimacy with another.

I just read this.
I am very disturbed.

The notion here is that another person's body is not really theirs, that their person is not their property which they should have control over. To think that they might want to dictate what happens to their body, who engages with it and in what manner, is absurd.

You have no respect, ZERO, for a person's right to control the fate of their own body and that is crystal clear here.
That is freaking scary.

You could have everything in the world going on, but I bet a lot of girls pick up on this about you.

That may be why you find it difficult to get women to go back to your place, to reference your other thread.

:/


...that should help answer this:

This, my friend, is a prime example of rape culture.

No one is obligated to have sex if they don't want to. If both parties are not willing to have sex at that moment, then there is no sex happening. That is simple. No one owes anyone sex. At any time. For ANY reason.

Attitudes like the above are what leads to date rape....

Not saying that you're a rapist, but you certainly have the attitude that condones it. You should really research the topic more. While you're at it, research the Nice Guy Syndrome.

^This!!!!

Of course it is between 2
Consenting adults.
Nowhere did I say I want girl
To lie there and have my way
With her.

you should read kama sutra.
that is the type of real loving
and deep sex I expect together.
try it sometime maybe some of
You replyers will not be so
Uptight.

You keep taking quotes from me
Then arguing against my desires, and
The other girls seem to give Hugs and Thanks
as if to say Ha she told him off that jerk!

You constantly moan about rapers and abusers,
Yet when a genuinely loving guy wants safe sex
you tell me it is not my right and it objectifies women,
And lump me in with those guys. Yeah yeah I know
girls seem to be all about treated as individuals..
Well you cant have an individual but a Team to
Build a loving sexual bond. Yes...Team. a guys
Needs are 50% of that team you are part of. Those
needs do include sex. And yes guys get Wood and need
You in that area also...so hence my post.
What do you Need from me to give you your 50%?
You still have not told me. You are all about being
An individual yet dont even know what you Need or
How to fill my need in the original post.

Your thinking is what is poisoning the dating world.

Further,
you feel like my need for an orgasm
Somehow objectifies women..
Let me tell you this..

I do 90% of the work during sex because
making a girl orgasm is known to be
so much harder and labor intensive.
That is just biology. I dont complain
About being objectified then.
Yet all I need is a few minutes of your
End of the deal and its somehow
Objectifying!???

Get real, this convo is sooo over!
i am done here with this land of
Double standard. Bye!

Really, why do you not read what any of us say? You seem to read what we're saying... and then lumping us in to the stereotypes in your head. Uptight? Where on earth have you gotten the idea that any of us are uptight? Many of us who have been responding to your threads have talked much more honestly about sex than you have. None of us who have posted seem to have an issue with masturbation - but you do. I don't think any of us have had a problem with calling an erection an erection - but you seem to. We have basically all told you, repeatedly, that women love sex as much as men do. Yet you still ignore that.

I thank posts to acknowledge that somebody has the patience to keep on giving you advice and insight (WHICH YOU'RE ASKING FOR) even though it seems you aren't reading/comprehending them, because I lack that kind of patience. Your simmering resentment of women makes me unable to do so constructively or in a civilized manner.

Red Panda,
Let me just finish with some thoughts and I will leave
For sure. Your reply deserves a response.

I hear what youre saying. Build a bond through non sexual
means... emotional. Talk, do stuff, listen to her...and then
Have sex when you both trust each other.

Here is the problem....
Girls want to go out to dinner. I Hate
eating out. It is costly and she makes it feel
Like job interview. And I am way past the bar
And club scene too.

I hate talking about work. Am not close with family
So no need to talk about them. And do not watch sports
with male buddies so no topic there.

Most of what I want to do is centered around the home.
So no not sex all day... I would like her to cook with me
and watch movies too. Or raise pets together. Listen to
Music. Give each other massages. A massage is also good
At relieving erections, not just sex.

I do some fitness and like the beach, if hot, but
I generally want a girl to be around the house with me.
Surely there is a solution here and you understand my point.
I happen to have vivid sex fantasies and watched alot of
porn years ago...still do sometimes. That is just how I am.

Women want those things. You make a lot of assumptions about women that aren't true. For me, I prefer home life to bar hopping or dinner. Someone who has no idea who you are is not going to want to immediately sit on your face or relieve your erection- you have to put more effort into her- she will have to put that same effort into you as well. Sometimes a walk at the beach can be a good date.

There's nothing wrong with sex- the problem comes from your sexist and stereotypical responses to women. Thinking about women this way and treating women with such disregard for who they are has a lot to do with why you're not getting what you want.

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I think the problem with so may women jumping you in this anthony is the fact that all of your thred sound like... "oh woe is me no women will have sex with me even though I don't plan on meeting any of there needs."

Stop stereotyping women and find one that is similar to you.

Honestly most women want you to go out with them to dinner for a date because it makes us uncomfortable to invite a guy we don't know well to be alone with us in a place no one can hear us scream for help... I really don't think that needed to be explained but oh well.

A large amount of women would rather stay and hang out at home. Trust me I'm a gamer so are many of my female friends. Most of the stuff we do is at home activities.

Just because you don't enjoy some things doesn't mean you don't have to do them. Like my boy friend and I both don't enjoy talking about work. It stresses us out. But If one of us needs to vent we are there for each other.

The point is everything is mutual. The caring, the cuddeling, the complaining, spending time together, cleaning, sex.... some stuff is fun some stuff isn't. If you want a relationship. Your going to have to find a girl who you can deal with her negative and she can deal with yours.

We are not all princesses that want everything our way. We aren't all emotional and off in our own world.
I happen to be a kinky weirdo who is just as, if not more into sex than my boyfreind. I'm a geek that would like nothing more than hanging out with my boyfriend at the house working on one of our strange projects.

I get sick of men who make sex a goal and seem to think that they have to get it because they think all women are just not interested.... that one little thought is keeping you from finding anyone.

I'm sorry to say Albert, you are completely misguided in your views of women. first thing to do to get "ANY" women to like you or want anything from you. Do something for them not YOU. Everything about your posts is about how YOU ARE UNSATISFIED AND WOMEN ARE SELFISH. You're projecting.

Sorry to see you leave. 'work' to satisfy a woman?

Last time, I checked,some feel it is better, to give, than to receive. At, the same time, scratch my back, I'll scratch yours applies,,when people are in a loving, committed relationship.

Then again, if giving, isn't your pleasure, then, naturally it's a challenge

doth, protest, too much...

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Then don't invite them out to dinner. Invite them out for coffee or something to talk a bit, or invite them for a walk on the beach (maybe get a drink somewhere nearby depending on what it's like?)

Sometimes women don't like to go out for dinner all the time either. I don't. My town/city has pretty much nothing to do, so my friends and that go out for dinner a lot. It's boringish but there isn't too much to do. My last boyfriend and I? We were both tight for money at the time, and we spent the majority of our relationship in my apartment - sometimes watching movies, sometimes playing board games, sometimes having sex, sometimes just chatting. Neither of us spent much money on the other.

Talk about the things that you like to talk about - like cooking. If she doesn't like cooking and doesn't really like eating, then well, you'll learn that and then you'll probably not be quite as interested in her either. Sure, people talk about work.. but that isn't all you want to know about someone.

Albert, have you considered seeing a therapist about your apparent obsession with sex? You say you are so sexually frustrated that you are snappish with people at work. You are distraught over a morning erection. Different people have different levels of sexual interest, but if anything in someone's life begins to impact their daily functioning - and I'd say snapping at people at work because you are horny is negatively impacting your life - it's time to get help.

You are frustrated that you wake up with an erection every morning. From what my husband and male friends have told me, this is a very common experience for men. Learn to deal with it just like other mature adult males do.

Which, netiquette, dictates, that if you start a thread, and others take the time, to reply, it's nice to show appreciation, regardless, if you actually agree.

Just sayin'

Give me a break, it's "work" only if you're having sex as if it's a mechanical, unemotional, physical thing. I'm sorry but you clearly have not had sex with a woman you love because, the fact is, it's not work at all or "labor intensive" I am amazed at your description of sex. No wonder you're baffled.

Then, you're doing it wrong. o.O That's not biology. I have no idea what you're talking about there.

99% of your posts are complaints about women, they are selfish, they are too focused on phones, they don't want to give you what you think you "deserve" and so on and so forth.

End of the deal? Seriously man, there is no deal without an agreement between two people. Men that think they deserve sex because they took a woman out to a nice place, bought them nice flowers etc.. are really clueless. it doesn't work that way at all. No one, no matter how long you are with them owes you sex. Except maybe a *****. In that case you pay them and the "deal" is they give you sex. Not that I know first hand, that's just common knowledge

There is no double standard here at all. Fact is, you're the one that's not being real! Everyone here has it right and have tried to help you honestly. Your expectations are just way unrealistic and your view, very jaded.

Wow. I think I dated you. I had an affair with a guy just like you. Never wanted to go to dinner, rarely out to a movie, just wanted to stay in his apartment all day, with the exception to take the dog for a walk through the park. It was all about sex, all the time. Cook with me, have sex in the kitchen. Listen to music and give massages, end up having sex. Take a shower babe, you'll feel better - sex in the shower. Take the dog for a walk, sex in the park. The couple of times he was actually willing to take me to a movie, he had his hands all over me and was distracting to the point of not being able to watch the damn movie. Didn't want to talk about anything, work, family, the news. Oh wait. Football and baseball. We could talk about that. Usually ended up having sex during the games. Yeah, there was nothing about that guy that resembled anything like a relationship or trying to have a 'deep connection.' It was all about relieving the boner. Yeah, he wouldn't masturbate either. And to think I left a guy who treated me like a queen and would do anything for me, who appreciated a good conversation, a nice dinner and finding those deep connections, I left him for this p.o.s. Fortunately for me, he wanted me back. I look back on those days and it not only feels like a dream, it's more like a nightmare. Good luck to you dude, but with the attitude you have, you will never have a woman in your life. Not for very long anyway...