Single and morning wood driving me insane!

So im a single guy and my problem is
whenever I am single, I wake up each day
with a phenomena called morning wood.

In a guys biology, it means a huge erection
at the worst time...when I am alone and
Have no one to cuddle up with for relief.

I feel that girls replying to my other posts
are only concerned with what the girl wants,
that I am only "eligible" for sex when She wants
to have sex, but not when I want to.

Why the double standard? If you want equality
for all.....this to me is not equality. I mean I'm
a cute guy and in no way abusive or dangerous.
so why am I not able to secure a steady sexual
partner who is willing and able to share in the
bounty that is a sexual-driven relationship?

In past situations when I was seeing someone,
it also was like this attitude of they dont really
Need me for sex but are doing what makes Them
feel good.... yet when I need it they are never
Available but out with friends.

I heard that fitness is a way to release my tension, but
It actually spiked up my wood like crazy!

Masturbation? I refuse! Feels good for 2 min but
Afterwards I feel like why did I just waste my sperm
on myself! Feels like loserville. No fun.
So I want to hear from my fellow guys and some
sympatthetic girls

To add to the above...I have tried
Online dating sites for years.
Most girls write in their profile
"If you are looking to hookup...
Keep moving. I am not here for
Hookups"

Ummm...ok?
Well am I supposed to pretend that
I am NOT sexually aroused by you?
What do they want...another bestie
Or a boyfriend?

I dont get the sexually uptight dating
Culture I am in. I really feel like it is
A crime to be hetero today and admit
to being physically aroused by a girl.

Hi
Sorry you feel "unclaimed".it us not true that women only use men for their gratification.i suppose you just have not met someone who can give ,someone caring and committed.every relationship has a flip side and requires mutual respect and learning to share everything ,including fun and satisfaction .As to what to do,sorry not my field of expertise ,
Good luck

I don't feel sorry for you, every guy I've ever been with has had morning wood. You're goal of finding basically a f*** buddy is a bit ridiculous to me but to each their own. I think that's going to be next to impossible to find, but I hope you're honest with whatever lady you court and allow them to decide if that's something they want.

Your whole post reminds me of my ex... I hope you can mature and your attitude about women changes. Good luck to you.

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I don't think women have an issue with being told their sexually attractive or turn you on (at least I don't), but they don't want to be objectified either.

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According to doctors, men have erections all through the night and morning wood is the last of them. Apparantly your penis exercises to keep in shape while you sleep, its not a sign of sexual frustration per sé.

Anywayyy, I'm sorry you think every erection qualifies you for sex, I can only imagine the millions of unhappy puberty age boys with their surprize erections, if they feel as entitled as you.

Also, I have trouble imagining a world where this is acceptable... should people stop dead in their tracks, cooking, learning, working, etc because an erection interrupted?

What I find sad is that through all your protests and questions and members explaining and empathizing, you still refuse to acknowledge the error in your thinking.

When a girl on a dating site says "no hook up" shouldn't you WANT to meet her because she's looking for a bf?

You did say you want a gf no? Someone mutually exclusive to rock your world whenever you have a boner?

So why skip the those potential gf's, because they're not willing to have sex on the first date?

Is that an actual deal breaker for you?

If so, best buy a prostitute to have and to hold from this day forward. Think about it, she'll fk on the first night, and if you own her a.s.s she can't ever see any other man naked again!

Although I heard this rumour that slavery was abolished recently so that may be a tad bit difficult to pull off.

You are very self-absorbed, everything is me me me, while you whine about it supposedly being her her her and that's ok, its an observation, not a judgement. ( I promise, I'm straightforward AND honest, so will tell you if and when I do judge you).

Buuut, your mememe isn't a huge problem, some women go for that, it allows them to cater to their man and make them feel useful.

You probably chase off women because you give off a rapey vibe. Not that you'd force a woman, I'm not saying that. Its just clear that a good fk is your main priority and women don't feel safe around such men, especially strangers, no matter how well behaved he was on the 3 occasions you met for an hour long date each...

Here's a piece of solid advice: search for compatability instead of ( but including) a warm body.

Seek out a woman with similar goals, needs and wants. That way you won't think its her her her, it will instead be we we we and you'll stop *****ing about how aweful women are.

...I can't believe you're single

Agree with all above
If you are looking for one night stand ,well you are being treated like one ....until you decide to grow up and decide that not every wish is granted and satisfied upon request and there is something called restraint which makes man mature

Omg why when I say need for sex
people automatically equate it
With one night stand or a rapey vibe.

Why cant I show my affection in
a physical way, get that same in return,
And keep that same routine with her
Every day?
What is rapey there?

I always use protection and good
Hygiene.

again , it is about commitment and respect,mutual. Do you satisfy her /their every wish on request?

Well yea... when they wanted me to
Pleasure them a certain way, I would
Agree. I dont believe in one sided
intimacy. I read kama sutra and believe
In deep sexual connection.
Why do people here make me out to be
Some drunk fratboy who wants hookups?

But I am sick and tired of feeling so
Tense all day and the morning wood,
Evening wood... fantasies, and no way out.

I feel so alone and depressed when I have
To clench my pillow.. but my pillow gives
Me something physical to hold.

Doesnt anyone here have a brother? Think
how he would feel and what would you tell
Him!

I would tell him women find desperation unattractive.

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I have 3, 1 is younger than me, and thankfully none of them as ignorant as you adamantly remain to be.

FYI, I would say exactly what I said to you, verbatim. I swear on my daddy's grave (RIP).

The only difference is, they would hear me.

At first I felt frustrated with your unwillingness to listen, comprehend and learn what we so freely offer to teach.

Now I just feel sorry for you because at the rate you're going down the path you're heading, you'll sadly probably end up alone.

This really saddens me, we all deserve love, but we have to be able to recognize it in order to have and give it.

#Therapy

I like Apple Juice.

Something to think about... you keep talking about women and how they only want it their way and how you're this nice, good looking guy. There are millions of men who qualify as nice and good looking who are in satisfying relationships. Have you ever stopped to think maybe the problem isn't the culture or the way women are, but the problem is you?

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@Trippin,
Yes I hear what you are saying.. you all want to "talk". you don't want sex but want to talk, to be courted, to be loved verbally.. and then when you trust me you may, just may (if I'm lucky), have sex... but will act like its a favor to me because I am just a lapdog.

Well guess what.. I did it your way for years. Talking, texting, courting, dates.

I am soooo friggin bored already with that game. And let ME be honest too, because I am the first guy who will be honest about what he Really wants.

Sex is amazing, is rejuvenating, makes me feel like a new man, and the tension is
gone! And then I want it more and more with the same person (not a one night stand), which means each time we will love each other more and earn deeper trust. I do not get that from the way You want me to be. I am just pretending to court you when in fact I can't stand the dating process.

I like deep sexual connection, and you still haven't told me how to deal with daily Wood yet you expect me to talk to girls on solely non-sexual matters... kinda hard when Wood is all on my mind all day. Please try to be a hetero male for once, you would not last 2 seconds in our shoes.

Everyone gets horny at different times. If you choose to not masturbate because it's not as satisfying as being with a partner.. well.. that stinks to be you, but that's your perogative. Many people who are in relationships still masturbate.

Also... I think most guys would probably say that the worst time to have an erection is when you're out in public and can't do a thing about it. When they're at home they can masturbate and feel happy about it.

There isn't a double standard. Females want to have sex just as much as guys do.

However. If you want to have a relationship, many people want to KNOW the other person before they have sex with them. This is done for many reasons, one of which is to ensure that the other person is also wanting a relationship and is not just around for sex. If someone just wants to have sex, they'll stop seeing that person or they will be upfront about it.

If you are always available when the women want to have sex.. that's all well and good. But it doesn't meant that they will always want to have sex. You might just have a larger sex drive. That's your issue, not theirs. You are free to turn down sex when they want it too. Just because you always say yes does NOT obligate them to also always say yes.

And again - when women first meet you, there is NO WAY to know that you're not abusive. Absolutely none. There's nothing to tell them that you are not a huge creep who is just out for sex until they have gotten to know you more. And the fact that you ARE just out for sex... doesn't help you out too much. You've already stated that you don't want to hear about any of their issues and you've complained about them wanting to talk about things... and that you view intimacy as being completely related to sex and not to anything else. Yet you don't want friends-with-benefits and you claim you don't want a hook up. But everything you describe is just wanting a steady hook-up - which is friends-with-benefits. It's caring/friendship and steady sex - without the emotional intimacy.

And quite frankly - if you're on a date, there is clearly some sexual attraction. You aren't going to go on a date with someone that you don't feel physically attracted to, unless you know them well as a person already. But physical attraction doesn't mean needing or wanting to have sex ASAP. So all the women you date KNOW that you are attracted to them, so no one expects you to pretend not to. But they do expect you to respect them. And they want to know you. Clearly... when they get to know you, they decide to move on.

" I am soooo friggin bored already with that game.
I am just pretending to court you when in fact I can't stand the dating process."

That right above? What you just said? That is why you cannot get a single woman to go home with you. You are insincere. You are manipulative. You are a user. You are fake. You are phony. You are selfish. You are inconsiderate. That is what I have learned about you through your own words throughout your various threads. And I have not even spent an hour with you.

And if you spend all day thinking about sex and the fact that you've got an erection? That is your problem. Deal with it at home. Stop expecting women to be your slaves. We're not objects. If you really want to go for asinine stereotypes... try being a woman and listen to all the sexist crap that gets spewed at us from men all the time. Experience being treated like an object instead of like a person. Give that a go.

I am just not a big talker, I show affection/love better in a physical way, and I have a Wood I need to relieve somehow... that is as plain as I can put it. Of course I will communicate with a girl,, but it is not what makes me happy.

Does it make me sound shallow and brutish? maybe to some.

Guess what, several weeks ago I met a girl online and decided "ok, this one I will try not to be all about sex with her, and actually get to know her first". Well, after many many phone chats, stupid me ended up driving 2 hrs away, thinking that she actually liked me, and on the date she had hardly anything to say.. and later texted me to say she felt no connection. this is after wasting my time for weeks on the phone and facebook, and I spend so much money on gas to get to her!

Now, I'm sure alot of girls on this forum have met guys that wronged them.. but believe me alot of your fellow females (not all) but alot that I have met, have used dates simply for "attention", free drinks/dinner, or to talk about their male friends. Then they play the texting game which drives me crazy. I'd say 95% of the girls I went out with.. so I am not generalizing. lol.

And the outcome is usually me waking up the next day with huge Wood and no one next to me to relieve each other's sexual tension. And yes it is.. it is stress, tension, frustration, and pent-up disillusionment at dating.

I am all about results and outcomes... and so therefore Sex is simply proof that we are together and I don't have to go out and do the above-stated monkey game anymore, but will wake up those cold winter mornings next to you and you next to me. So how is that fake and phoney? I am clearly being honest about the REAL world through my eyes and experience.

I am sure in Mayberry things are different, but I do this sort of thing in NYC where it is a very superficial life,, you are burdened by 10-hour workdays, high cost of living, high cost of dating, girls "driven" by things other than boyfriends (career, friends, gadgets, work, money, the gym)..... and many dudes like that too, so for guys like me who believe in a deep sexual bond it seems like I am alone in this world and the empty pillow proves it.

I'm glad I'm not a man because I would loathe to be represented by someone like you. You give men a bad name. You think Idk what its like to walk around horny as hell? You think WOMEN don't know this horniness you speak of? Ignorance is clearly not bliss in your case

I'm done, I'm not wasting my time any further, there are people on this site who ACTUALLY want insight, help and guidance.

I suggest you start a "He-man women haters" club / blog, it will be much better suited to your typing needs.

Acting desperate is a huge turnoff for me. I don't care how handsome or nice smelling you are, if you are continuously dejected because life has not given you what you want (and you think you deserve) I would not be interested in a relationship/sex with you.

It isn't a game that you have to play to 'get' sex. Perhaps while you are working on your communication skills (sounds like you need a lot of work there) you should buy a sex toy or two. I have toys and they are fun and available when I want them and when I don't want sex the toys don't complain.

Good luck.

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There is obviously a reason the Relationships forum is the most read and visited here, because this topic is the one that causes the most heartache, frustration, emotional discontent, sadness, anger, and cluelessness.

Easy solution...

If you are a girl, and you like him, and he is safe & clean and not abusive... have sex if he wants to have sex.. use protection and/or pills. This saves alot of arguments and tension.

If you don't like him, then don't go out with him. Duhhh. And please don't try to put him in friendzone... I personally hate that, not sure about other guys. Yes I do want to sleep with you and not be your Brother figure. Find a brother for that.

Guys.. you need to hold off on all that alcohol.. it makes you abusive and guys like you are the reason all these girls are avoiding sex with normal decent guys who are not abusive but just want to sleep with someone out of love and affection.

So fair is fair.. I have just resolved most problems here. Too bad you will go off and listen to your friends, the media, and the facebook trolls for advice. Good luck with that. How is that working so far?

Sounds like you got it ALL figured out, couldn't have said it better myself. Cheers!

Is this for real? Seriously? The grammar and punctuation along with the ersatz poetry vibe triggers my troll-dar.