[Alishia88]

We´ve been together for many years, even though we´re still young.
I´m currently not in a good living situation, as I live with my mother who is an alcoholic and source of many of the difficulties I´m trying to work through in therapy.

We´ve been talking about moving in together. He is in a simulare situation,
his mother died, his father an alcoholic (my father´s dead, my mother´s alcoholic).

We like being around eachother all the time and we get on very well (vacations too etc)

But I feel that I am already too dependent on him as it is and living together would automatically make it even harder to be more independent of him and just to my self.

I couldn´t imagine living alone, because I think it would make me totally anxious and depressed. Besides, beside my boyfriend, I don´t have many friends rightnow. I think even if we lived apart we would spend most of the time at eachother´s places..... I just don´t have many people in my life rightnow. I´m not talking to my sister, I don´t have any other family I talk to
and I have "loose" shared friends with my boyfriend, that don´t know about my troubles.
I know the key is to get into closer relationships with other people, but for me this is really easier said than done. I have a hard time trusting and getting close with other people.

What do you think?

[manwithnofriends]

as long as you two understand each other and love each other and are happy together that should be fine.

[Angel of Bedlam]

I don't see a problem woth moving in together so long as you're in love and want to work toward making yourselves better.

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[healingme4me]

Maybe you'll find your independence living with him? Meaning,,sounds like you are dependent on him, emotionally, we do depend on our SO's, to be an emotional support,,that's normal and healthy.
While living together, you can plan time away, shopping, hobbies, new friends, outside the home, and still come back home, to him. That's, independence, in an 'interdependent' relationship.

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[RomanSunburn]

Just curious, how young is young?

I think if you have all the practical things figured out, like how you guys would pay for rent (do both of you have jobs? Would you split it equally? Would one person pay all of it?) and other bills (heat, water, etc), then I would say maybe you should give it a try. The other thing to keep in mind is to start saving money for yourself in case things don't work out, and then you'll still have a way out, standing on your own two feet. I know it sounds extreme, but I did it when I moved in with my now husband.

Maybe getting into a healthier living situation would give you the opportunity to work on your independence and trust in therapy. Not to mention, once you start spending all your time with your boyfriend, you might be more inclined to go out and do things on your own in your free time, like taking a class or volunteering or something, so you can make new friends.