Me and my drunk (again)

I know I've been on here before with this, and I don't know that there are any answers, but it helps a little to share.

My husband drinks on the weekends to the point of being obnoxious and screaming and sometimes having blackouts.

I was ready to leave the house tonight, but he said he would be quiet and so far he has been mostly so. It's so scary though. I don't really fear that he will hurt me, but he has been very destructive to the house, and he has been arrested 5 times in the last 5 years for disorderly conduct, which could lead to the loss of his job.

It's a very stressful situation. I went to al-anon for years, but I'm just kind of done with that. Like I said, I don't know that I can be helped, but if you are so inclined, prayers would be welcome.

Hi Otter, you have my prayers and good thoughts. I totally understand what its like to be around an alcoholic. It is not a pleasant atmosphere. If you are staying with him you must have a good reason. But it sounds like it is you that is suffering. It does not sound like he is making an effort to end this behavior, so either he will need to make a decision and change or you may have to consider a change for yourself.

I left the house because of the noise. Black Sabbath and him screaming-enough already!

I was thinking about suggesting to him that we call it quits (we've been married 30yrs next May). Maybe he would be happier living alone where he could drink and blast his music to his hearts content.

The problem with that is I am not in a position to take care of myself. I don't have the drive to have to move and to try to live on my disability. If I were to go manic again, I wouldn't want to be alone.

If I were to leave him for a while, he would probably straighten up, but for how long? He does what is needed to pacify me.

It's 1:25 am and I just want to go home and go to bed! Grrr!

I left the house because of the noise. Black Sabbath and him screaming-enough already!

I was thinking about suggesting to him that we call it quits (we've been married 30yrs next May). Maybe he would be happier living alone where he could drink and blast his music to his hearts content.

The problem with that is I am not in a position to take care of myself. I don't have the drive to have to move and to try to live on my disability. If I were to go manic again, I wouldn't want to be alone.

If I were to leave him for a while, he would probably straighten up, but for how long? He does what is needed to pacify me.

It's 1:25 am and I just want to go home and go to bed! Grrr!

I left the house because of the noise. Black Sabbath and him screaming-enough already!

I was thinking about suggesting to him that we call it quits (we've been married 30yrs next May). Maybe he would be happier living alone where he could drink and blast his music to his hearts content.

The problem with that is I am not in a position to take care of myself. I don't have the drive to have to move and to try to live on my disability. If I were to go manic again, I wouldn't want to be alone.

If I were to leave him for a while, he would probably straighten up, but for how long? He does what is needed to pacify me.

It's 1:25 am and I just want to go home and go to bed! Grrr!

.........posting issues. Double post

Thank you Curly. I know that's true I just wish I knew what to do.

Sorry about all the posts. It was giving me an error message so I didn't realize it was posting.

My partner is the same with the drinking, his level of boozing is his so call therapy or an outlet. To me, he just want to get drunk once a week in order to satisfy his 'cravings' ! He does his full 'dark' side when he's drunk, abusive, blame the whole world, worst of all calling or texting ex wives.

I have to take my hat off you how did you manage to put up with it all for 30 years?

Thank you Jeannie82 for your reply. I really do need to get some therapy. I tend to get lulled back into denial between episodes and for some dumb reason I often believe him when he says he's going to stop.

I believed him again. Had to leave the house again.

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