He's in that angry place again. Anything sets him off. He yells and gets in my face pointing and grinding his teeth. Of course he says I drive him crazy, that I make him this way. He will keep going on and on. Saying that I'm making a big deal and I'm fighting when I'm just sitting there. Trying not to cry or argue back or yell. (Which is what I do 90% of the time). I'm trying to own my actions and how they contribute to the problem. So this morning I keep trying to defuse him. Let's stop. Please.
He just can't bring himself back down. I know he doesnt like this. Hes clearly uncomfortable. Yet he doesn't do much to get help or something. In the moment there is no reasoning with him but I always try.
He threatens to get loud and he's leaving and I do this on purpose.
I hate this person he becomes. I hate that I keep hoping things will change. I hate what he's doing to me with this behavior. Its so freaking triggering and I fight to keep it together everytime.

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[healingme4me]

Originally Posted by Imalooney

He's in that angry place again. Anything sets him off. He yells and gets in my face pointing and grinding his teeth. Of course he says I drive him crazy, that I make him this way. He will keep going on and on. Saying that I'm making a big deal and I'm fighting when I'm just sitting there. Trying not to cry or argue back or yell. (Which is what I do 90% of the time). I'm trying to own my actions and how they contribute to the problem. So this morning I keep trying to defuse him. Let's stop. Please.
He just can't bring himself back down. I know he doesnt like this. Hes clearly uncomfortable. Yet he doesn't do much to get help or something. In the moment there is no reasoning with him but I always try.
He threatens to get loud and he's leaving and I do this on purpose.
I hate this person he becomes. I hate that I keep hoping things will change. I hate what he's doing to me with this behavior. Its so freaking triggering and I fight to keep it together everytime.

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If you, are trying to own your actions, then it sounds like you are working through your own side.

Is he currently, in therapy? There's absolutely no way, that YOU, MAKE him "yells and gets in my face pointing and grinding his teeth."

Sorry, you are going through this. How long, have you two, been together?

[wife22]

Does he have any problems at work or has he been diagnosed with any psych problem before ? Sometimes man spill their hurt on their spouses intentionally just to prove they are in control
That is not normal life and can not go on long ,go to counseling even if alone
Take care

Originally Posted by healingme4me

If you, are trying to own your actions, then it sounds like you are working through your own side.

Is he currently, in therapy? There's absolutely no way, that YOU, MAKE him "yells and gets in my face pointing and grinding his teeth."

Sorry, you are going through this. How long, have you two, been together?

Thank You. I know that I don't make him in my rational mind. In my unhealthy mind it sounds so true I come with my own truck load of baggage and emotional issues which have contributed to our problems. I try very hard to make him happy. When he's happy I'm happier.
He currently isn't in any therapy. I try to encourage him to go. I know he went in the past.
It's been a little over 2 years now.
I love him. Its so stupid because I know from my own experience that that's never enough.
I'm torn every single day about us.

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Originally Posted by wife22

Does he have any problems at work or has he been diagnosed with any psych problem before ? Sometimes man spill their hurt on their spouses intentionally just to prove they are in control
That is not normal life and can not go on long ,go to counseling even if alone
Take care

He always has issues at work or with someone in his life ( which is very few people)
He has been diagnosed bi polar as a teen. I agree that he def has that and maybe more.
He's very hyper and anxious in general.
Its such a back and forth up and down relationship with him.

Thank you

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