How do you forget someone you love?

Good luck!

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He was ignoring me, Wouldn't say a word to me, I was texting to him for almost 2 months, every single day, so this song was so close to me "say something im giving up on you", he told me once that he admires me because I never gave up on our relationship and I knew myself I never will. No matter what happens. But i did now. Even this I still love him, I just had no powers to fight for him anymore. He wouldn't even explain anything or say anything, he just moved on.
I understand how you feel and I hope you can move on with your life and leave the past behind. .

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I'm sorry you are going through this

As others said above, you can't forget. You can move on but it is a process and there is no specific time frame on it. Allow yourself to feel everything, to be there with the pain and loss. But at a certain point you have to ensure that you aren't dwelling too much on the pain.

The best thing that helped me was talking to my friends and dating. You will find what works for you.

I'm sorry but the reality is you won't ever forget this...it's like saying how do I erase this sort of thing. You can only give yourself time and eventually the hurt will lessen. It's a choice really, you can decide to move on with your life and not obsess over the past or you can be stuck over something you have no power over anymore. I think these things happen for a reason...if it was meant to be you would have found a way for things to work out. It doesn't mean you won't ever love again and I think to deny yourself this sort of opportunity is rather self-defeating. Keep posting here, it can't hurt to take advantage of the support on offer. Members here will try and help in any way they can. Good luck.

I don't mind remembering and not forgetting all beautiful memories we had, but I don't want to love him all my life, someone I will never see again, someone who isn't mine anymore. I don't know if I can love again, I just can't see it happening one more time with such STRONG feelings. I think I loved too much (if it is possible) I am out of relationship not by choice so love is still there, I decided to move on and I do my best to move on with my life, I am seeing a therapist I am going out with friends, but it all feels more like existence for me, and again I gotta do it.

there is a book called "getting past your break up"

I am going through the same thing. This book is really good and has excellent reviews.

I wish I could attach the pdf for you as that is what i have on my computer

I read a pretty helpful article will attach a part of it. .. regarding rejection ...

http://reydonstanford.com/id14.html

Rejection and pain of loss
Reydon Stanford Counseling Studies CHANGES|*THE COUNSELORS)*|*DIVORCE RECOVERY*|*GRIEF RECOVERY|*PERSONALITY ISSUES*|About Reydon*|*Contact Info*|Disclaimer*|*WHY AM I SO ANGRY?*THE PAIN OF REJECTIONBy Reydon Stanford***********

The word "rejection" actually means to

"throw something away."* With that in mind, what is the term for something thrown away?*
TRASH ... No wonder rejection is such a painful experience!* When someone rejects us, it leaves us feeling like we are ‘trash' in their eyes; something of no further value and that leaves us feeling extremely hurt.* How could that ‘not' hurt?Sadly, within our society, there are those who seem as good at throwing people away as they are at skipping nameless rocks across a pond.* Moving from one ‘favorite friend' to another or dumping one love for another, it's all "part of the game," in the selfish minds of people who have little regard for the feelings or lives of others.* As long as they are happy and excited, any damage done to others is all part of the game.*********** The inspiration for rejecting someone is selfishness or in some cases, the inability to love any more for whatever reason.* This shows up in the story of Adam and Eve, just after the creation.* Eve, for whatever reason, listens to the serpent assure her that she doesn't need God...she can be "like God," all on her own.* All she had to do was throw God under the bus and take a bite of fruit.************ Ever since, some people seem to carry the same mindset as Eve...believing that "what I want," is much more important than what is good or right.* This sets the stage for massive amounts of rejection.* In psychological thinking...rejection is the ‘action,' being rejected is the ‘response.'* Being "in control" always feels better than being "out of control," and being rejected is out of our control.WHY REJECTION HURTS*********** There are close to seven billion people living on the Earth.** Why then does it hurt so badly for us to be rejected by just a few of them within our life-time?* Doesn't it make sense that we would just say, "Oh well, I have billions of others who will love and value me," and go off seeking someone else to fill the void?* That's the problem...human emotions don't always make sense.* They are not cut and dried like that.* As one person said, "Love does not play by the proper rules of moral society."*********** Like all emotionally painful experiences, the level of pain involved in rejection is based upon "who" in our life is rejecting us.* For example:* I might feel bummed out by being rejected for a job, but I can get over that pretty easily.* However, if someone very close to me...let's say one of my sons said, "Dad, I no longer want to have anything to do with you.* In my mind, from this day forward you do not exist."* That would obviously be devastating based upon the value I give to that relationship.*********** On a larger scale, being rejected by society as a whole can be equally painful.* When someone is ‘cast out' of society as a bad person, (whether or not it is true), it can be devastating.* This is why such things as true racism, (regardless of which direction it comes from or is pointed to), rejection because of religious beliefs, sexual orientation, social status, financial status, education, or location, can leave humans feeling...sub-human.* No one could explain this pain any more vividly than the lepers who rotted away in the leper colonies of history, rejected by their families and society.* I believe the story of "The Scarlet Letter," was written to show the de-humanizing effects of those who can't or don't live up to societies standards, but that is just my opinion.************The main reason rejection hurts is because is it a value issue.** When we are rejected we feel like what we had to offer as a person has been studied, appraised and rejected as invaluable.* This, in turn, can cause us to feel a variety of unpleasant emotions from anger, wrath, revengeful thinking, confusion, sadness and grief.* It can leave us wondering what we did wrong, what we could have done to be better and a host of other unanswerable questions.* It can also cause us to question our own self-worth, and in most cases...leave our self-esteem in tatters.* Just ask the model who is her twenties, is being suddenly overlooked for younger women.*********** When it comes to intimate relationships, such as marriage, the pain of rejection is magnified and not only painful but also*potentially dangerous.* History tells us the horror stories of ex-wives and husbands who have been violently murdered because a rejected spouse lost control of their emotions through the enormous pain of rejection.* Many suicides can also be attributed to people unable to bear the emotional pain of rejection.* This is evident in one suicide note which read:*"It's not that I want to die...it just hurts too much to live."*********** Often-times, rejection comes as a result of our own actions.* Many alcoholics, drug addicts, sex addicts, porn addicts or mentally ill people have known the depths of despair that comes with being rejected by family members or friends that no longer have the capacity to bear the embarrassment and pain that comes with the actions and the behaviors these diseases bring.**In these cases the despair can seem even worse, because the rejection is nothing more than a confirmation of what the person has been feeling about their self for a long period of time.*(Obviously, mental illness or brain injury is not usually a result of a person's own actions).*********** Regardless of why we are rejected, the pain is still intense and can be long term.* So is there anything a person can do to recover from the pain of rejection?* Thankfully, the answer is yes.RECOVERY*********** One of the first things we need to understand about rejection is...it happens to everyone.* Although that might not seem like a comforting thought at first, think about it this way:* If everyone has been rejected at times during their lives and KEPT LIVING, you can too!!!* Sadly, rejection is a part of the human experience and because you are human, you must eat of the same bread.*********** Secondly, rejection teaches us to be very careful about placing our own value into the hands of other people, so in that respect...rejection is a great teacher.* When we place who we are and what we're worth solely into the hands of those we choose to love, we are taking a huge risk that they will see how fragile our value is and take very good care of it. This is worse than a dangerous prospect...it is almost certain to fail at some point.* In all honesty...placing our value into the hands of others is more than they can bear.*********** Thirdly, spirituality plays a very important role in our own self worth.* If our self-worth is grounded in the fact that we were created by ‘Someone' whom cared deeply about us, we can fall back onto that truth and feel comforted.* Interestingly, Jesus spent a great deal of time speaking to His disciples about this topic, trying to provide them comfort.* Saying things such as: "I will NEVER leave you, nor forsake you," and "I go to prepare a place for you, so that where I am, you may be also," Jesus was using psychological words meant to bring comfort and reassure the disciples of their value.*********** Fourthly, it is important to know that "anything of value we lose, we will grieve over."* Technically, the larger the loss we experience...the longer the grief will take.* Grieving is a natural part of the human experience and believe it or not...is a very honorable part of life.* When we are saddened at the loss of someone we love, we are legitimizing that loss through our grief.* Although it might sound brave for a friend or family member to ask you not to cry at their funeral, your tears are an honor to your love for them.* Loss hurts...deeply.* When someone rejects your love...that doesn't make your love cheapened or devalued...it shows they didn't deserve it.*********** Recognize that who you are and the love you have to give is your greatest gift.* If it is rejected it is a loss on the part of the person doing the rejecting...not you.* Recover your love and offer it to someone who will treasure you, honor you and LOVE YOU!

I hope this helps you in some kind of way...
It made a lot of sense to me

Peace be with you!

I know this situation very well, and although I only read the beginning of this thread, I scanned through it I finding all the right words. Addiction being one of them. I am co-dependent, my boyfriend and I of two years recently broke up. He broke up with me. He is an alcoholic and somewhat narcissistic and I am in so much pain right now,I need help with my self esteem and possibly hidden shame in order to build what I need to make it through this break up.Right at the moment I feel hopeless. Please send me words of encouragement.