[RamblinClementine]

Hi. I'm super sad and a bit drained after calling my dad yesterday. It was his birthday. He and I aren't very close, his health has been deteriorating for the last 10 years.

One of his friends called me to tell me he was in the ER with sepsis. I'd never heard of it but it can be fatal. He's in a recovery room now, but I'm just so sad still. He gave up on life a long time ago. He's diabetic and obese and lives in a shack. Last time I saw him he was pretty catatonic. Just unresponsive. My friend had just been killed in a bike accident and I was looking for sympathy. I told him and he was absolutely silent, with no expression.

It hurts so much to see him and know that he doesn't love himself enough to take care of himself.

[middie]

My heart goes out to you are this terrible sad and difficult time.

Sepsis can indeed be fatal. It must have been difficult for him with diabetes and the obesity.....maybe he was suffering from loneliness and depression and that is why he gave up on life. People who have a chronic illness like diabetes or obesity can suffer quite badly from depression.

Just know that, he knows you love and care for him. If you can, go see him, even if you sit with him and just hold his hand then he knows you are there for him. This may help you too. He is in the best possible place where he can get the care he so desperately needs.

It will be a difficult time for you and emotional too.....I will say a prayer for you both and am sending a big hug for you x

[gayleggg]

I agree with Middie. If you can, go see him. Hold his hand. In the long run you will be glad you did. If you can't, try to think of better times before he became like this and know he cares, he just hurts too bad now to let it show. I watched my Dad grieve himself to death but he never got tired of holding my hand.

[RamblinClementine]

I'm just waiting to here from him or my uncle, whom I've asked to go visit him. I live 2 hrs away and I'd have to rent a car to get there. He's not in ICU, so that's good. I think he's just sleeping, I've been calling his room every hour.

I feel so terrible today! I cried my eyes out last night.

[middie]

Maybe light a candle for him.....send him a card via your uncle to let him know that you are thinking of him. If he has sepsis his body will probably need plenty of sleep and rest to fight the infection and also the medication they are giving him and analgesia will make him very sleepy too.

Keep calling and eventually you will get through.

Tears are good ....they will help you release your emotion and not bottle it up or supress it and make you ill.

Do you have friends or family close by who you can talk to and get some support from....???

If you don't then continue to talk on here....you will get hugs and support when you need it on here....x

[RamblinClementine]

I'm not that close to family or friends. My boyfriend is really good at listening and being there for me.

[middie]

That's great that you have really good support from your boyfriend.

Have you managed to get in touch with your uncle???

If not maybe try sending the card, as I am sure that your uncle or the hospital staff will read it to your dad, and he will know that you are thinking about him and sending your love......x

[RamblinClementine]

My uncle did not go visit him even though I asked him to and he lives about a mile away! I have a very fractured family and am not entirely surprised. The anxiety is really getting to me and I just feel depressed about my dad being such a lonely chap; my boyfriend and I have decided to go rent a car and visit tomorrow. Thank you for listening.

[SilverNeurotic]

I'm sorry about what you are going through. I wish the best for your dad and I hope that he recovers.

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[middie]

Originally Posted by RamblinClementine

My uncle did not go visit him even though I asked him to and he lives about a mile away! I have a very fractured family and am not entirely surprised. The anxiety is really getting to me and I just feel depressed about my dad being such a lonely chap; my boyfriend and I have decided to go rent a car and visit tomorrow. Thank you for listening.

I am so pleased that you are able to get a car and go see him. Your BF sounds like he is very supportive and with him at your side I am sure that you will be strong and able to see your dad and let him know how much you love and care for him.

Even if he is not awake when you see him, let him know. Hold his hand. He will know you are there for him, when he needs it....sending you a big hug ....you are so brave....x

[who_am_i_7]

Praying 4 u