[Buddy17]

i am the one who got married and registered with one guy. but now living seperately due to some personal reason. but me and my husband used to talk over a phone everyday. now my problem is " i am sure that he is loving me more than his mom. i am not trusting my husband at any situation. i used to ask him to prove every incident at any situation(if he goes out with his friend). because of this he got induced to do some dare things. eg. last Sunday he went somewhere at night 10 to 12(don't know the reason). he didn't pick my call in that time of interval. so i fought him over a night.. i decided that i don't need him anymore" what i should do now? can i believe my husband? can my trust make him to close with me? is it happening because of separation?

[middie]

It must be a very difficult time for you......your head must be full of unanswered questions and your emotions very raw.......could you try sitting down with him somewhere to talk......somewhere neutral where you both have to keep control over your emotions and can talk rationally and calmly and listen to each other.........or maybe with a counsellor and work through your problems......its difficult and no quick fix......but if you love each other worth the long hall.......good luck and let us know how things are going for you.......you will get plenty of support on here.....sending you a hug x

[Buddy17]

Originally Posted by middie

It must be a very difficult time for you......your head must be full of unanswered questions and your emotions very raw.......could you try sitting down with him somewhere to talk......somewhere neutral where you both have to keep control over your emotions and can talk rationally and calmly and listen to each other.........or maybe with a counsellor and work through your problems......its difficult and no quick fix......but if you love each other worth the long hall.......good luck and let us know how things are going for you.......you will get plenty of support on here.....sending you a hug x

Really thanks middie.. if we sitting down to talk it ended in fight.. i dont know why its happening.. he is saying that he is as pure as gold to me but i refused to accept that.. may be he is good enough now.. but i dont have trust on his. i loses all trust on him. what is should now? basically i am from poor family so i dont have enough money to go counseling.. i am the one who leading my whole family.. i love him still but no trust.. one trust has been broken no way to get it again..that is happening in my life.. day by day its going too bad.. today he feels like that "why i should call you to make myself irritated" he says...

He says" i will never call you until you get trust on me.. if you want come with me with full trust, i will there for you. sure i wont talk with any girls without your knowledge.. i will be true sure"

what is should? i damn sure that he wont be without me.. but in my point of view" he only broken his trust so he only responsible to that trust back" why i should get his trust by myself? i am getting so tired to investigate his daily activities..what he is doing? to whom he is talking? to whom he is going out? like this.....

[middie]

Hi Buddie,

In the UK we have a charitable organisation "Relate" who provide relationship counselling. If you can't afford to pay they provide for free, or you can make a donation of what you can afford towards the sessions.

Do you have an equivalent in the US??? Maybe some of the users in the US would be able to help you with that one??

Otherwise some religious groups will provide counselling......eg pastors.....priests etc I am not sur3e what faith you are but could you ask around and find out if there are any services available in your area??

If you want something, there is always a solution if you look for it. Try searching on the internet for free counselling services in your area and see what comes up. There are normally like I say charitable organisations that can help, or womens services, who can help for free, or nominal fee.

Hope that helps.....x

[Buddy17]

Hi Middie,

Sorry i am from India.. i cant afford even single penny.. because i am leading my family by working in small organization. sure i will go any charitable organisation if it is free.. thanks for supporting me.. stay with me to guide my depression towards my love.. stay in touch.. really i feels like cool now....
today i decided to break up with him.. broke up done.. i dont know how i could be.. sure i will get out of my stress. i wanna live my life. i am going to concentrate any other thing..being a daughter i have some responsibilities to my parents.. i am staying in village. everyone in my village knows my love so i should marry him or i should be like forever.. so i dont know what i should do?

[hamster-bamster]

Buddy - Middie was confused, like me. I think you should change your location - currently it says "united states".

You should not worry about what the villagers will think. You have one life to live and cannot afford living it in a way that is not in your best interest just because of the village.

[Buddy17]

i am empty now. yes he did. yes he cheated me. why he cheated me? did i do any mistake? i came to know the reason why he didn't pick my call. reason is" he went to bus stand to drop his girl friend(colleague). he used another sim to talk with her. he says that " yes i talked with her and texted her every time by hiding you. because of you only i did" if i believed him at every situation he will be true" he says.
yes i suspected him why its all reason behind it. he cheated me 2 years back same as he did last month. how can i trust him anymore? is there any possibilities? my problem is we got married legally. what i should do now?

[hamster-bamster]

You You should talk to a local family attorney. We do not know any of your your local laws.