[dinosaurs]

I'm invisible. I don't exist. I had thought things would be better now. They aren't. It hurts so much. I try to tell her something interesting and before I'm even finished one sentence she's jumping in to tell me something about someone else she knows. I try telling an interesting story and I can tell no one is listening. So I stop talking mid sentence mid story. No one even notices. Do I even exist? I want to go home. After I sit here and cry for a couple of hours. Then I'll go cry some more when this post gets ignored like my other posts do. Because I'm nothing.

[John25]

I do care, dinosaurs. I am sorry you had such a bad experience at your mom's. I always appreciate and enjoy your input in chats.

[Frankbtl]

And I DO care too dinosaurs, I can see how it must have felt like you were noone and completely unimportant, like her life mattered to her more than yours/than YOU. BUT you DO matter!!
Maybe she has felt lonely, insecure, not recognised herself, these things don't always show, and is trying to over compensate? Maybe she was craving your recognition? It doesn't make it right but.......?
Do you think you could tell her how you feel when she does that? If it too hard face to face then maybe over the phone? Maybe agree with her that you've got something to say and you just want her to listen?
But don't ever lose being yourself and the importance of things you have to say. Maybe your mom is in the habit of wanting attention on herself a bit but pull in on, and stretch out, the times when she's listening a bit more. And hey, even try to jump in on something relating to you if she's turning the conversation. You might have to wait for her to finish but nothing wrong with then just going back to what you were saying, to what you wanted to say.
AND if you want someone to hear, if you have something to say, if she's really not listening, tell us on here. We WILL listen, recognize it, you DO matter.

[Little Lulu]

Even though some things are very painful, no experience is wasted if we don't allow it to be. Maybe there is something new you are supposed to see or know about your relationship with your mum or yourself. Staying open to the possibilities, even though they hurt, helps us grow.

As an aside, my father (now deceased) sounds very much like your mum. I finally got to acceptance about who he was and I quit needing him to be someone he wasn't. I felt peace when I got to that point.

[dinosaurs]

I can learn to accept that's what she's like and that she won't fill the needs I want her to. But if she ignores everything I say, why would I even want to be near her. That is just invalidating and toxic and soul destroying. I desperately want to be with her. But why would you continue to see someone who does not fill any needs. I don't understand.