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#1
Jan 21, 2014, 02:23 PM
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this is pointless. i sound like an awful human being.
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Jan 21, 2014, 02:32 PM
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I feel slightly disturbed about what I just read...she is a 9 year old CHILD and yes you do sound jealous more than anything. I think you have some major issues you need to work out and stop taking your pain or fears out on a 9 year old child. As for her father spooning with her, I see nothing wrong with that. I used to lay with my father and he never abused me in any way. You sound very bitter.
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Jan 21, 2014, 02:47 PM
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I did put the trigger icon on there! I do not feel bitter nor jealous...and I do not take out my feelings on a 9 year old girl. I was nothing but wonderful to her when she was around. Pains, maybe...heart ache to understand how I can feel more positively about this. I can see that...fears? None here.
I am confused more than anything. I know what I feel is disturbing...I don't even like it. I am more upset and angry with my own feelings. I know they aren't doing anything wrong, but I cannot wrap my head around the dynamics of the relationship and it's making me think crazy thoughts. Especially after hearing him say he wished he had this child with some one he loved. How can I not feel bad for this little girl? I see you want to be a good person too... so do I. My therapist has nothing for me on this btw. |
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#4
Jan 21, 2014, 02:55 PM
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Sorry I came across unsupportive....I know that's what we're here for but you seem very harsh towards her and it's not nice to read such thoughts towards a child. I wont comment anymore, I have nothing helpful to say.
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Jan 21, 2014, 03:52 PM
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I think you are not getting how much divorce can affect a child, especially when it sounds like she's basically been abandoned by him and she feels unloved by him. I don't know about the spooning, my husband never did that with our daughters and I come from a terrible home life as a child, so my first thought is perverted.
I hope you can work this out for your bf's sake and his daughters sake. If not, I think I might cut my losses and look for someone without a child. I speak from experience when I say being a step-parent is a thankless job and not fun. Good luck! |
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Jan 21, 2014, 05:04 PM
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Good thing I deleted my post, I see no one really read it thoroughly. :disappointment:
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Jan 21, 2014, 05:48 PM
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Well, I apologize if I missed the gist of the post. I thought I had read it thoroughly...what is it you think I missed?
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This is an old thread. You probably should not post your reply to it, as the original poster is unlikely to see it.|
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