First date tips for an older guy please.

Did you go on the date yet? Sounds so exciting! When I went on first date with my bf, I was so nervous! I continued to be nervous every phone call & date for a couple months! But talked myself into savoring the butterflies in the stomach, cuz who knows, it could be a lasting relationship & I could think back & giggle about how nervous I was.

I personally would love the date you have planned much more than coffee. I know a coffee first date is kinda standard here in states, mostly I thought for safety, daylight, public setting.

Let her set the pace, offer the things you could do, and get her feedback. But it's also nice for a man to be decisive & encouraging - she's probably nervous too! I'd like a man to say, "There's this wonderful place I want to take you!" But at the same time, he can't come on too strong or i'll run for the hills.

You have a great sense of humor! That always helps ease tension. But be able to be serious & a good listener too. Maybe I'm old-fashioned, but I like the man to pay for the date & open doors for me & adore me. If I don't like him I insist to pay my own.

Regarding height, yes, most people tell some fib on their dating site profile. i caught my bf in the beginning on such a site, and he said he's 6'4" when he's 6'3", you can bet i gave him an ear load for that lol. For all you know, she may be shorter than hers says. And I really think everyone lies about their weight, that one you should wait to see if she even notices or comments.

I would tell her before the date that you told a little white lie about your height & see how she responds. I'm not sure I would change it on the site now because she will see it & think you're still looking for other women - why else even use the site? I'm 5'7" and don't mind shorter men, I think it's pretty hot when I'm taller. I had a super fun fling with a guy 5' , we danced our butts off & I will always remember how fun he was.

Yes! Do more than the coffee bore lol. I think you are so sweet to plan such a special date. I don't like the "wait 3 days to call" game. My bf gave me a call the next night to say he'd had a nice time & how was my day. I thought that was very gentlemanly.

Again you have a great sense of humor Hope it went well!

I couldn't agree more with the poster who said be a gentleman. Not overly funny like a baffoon or talkative. Let her speak more than you. Don't appear over anxious or she'll think your desperate. Keep the first meeting brief. Leave her wanting more time with you than sick of you. Give her a flower. Compliment her but not too much. Don't talk about yourself ad nauseum. Ask her about her. Women like a little mystery like men do. Play it cool.

Ptang,

The suspense, is too much! How'd it go?

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Hi vans and thanks to all for the tips so far . Keep em coming. The date hasn't happenened yet, she's on holiday ( back tomorrow). Just hope she hasn't met a man . I sent her a message saying that i hope she isn't she isn't drooling over some swarthy Greek fisherman a la Shirley Valentine while all he wants is someone to clean and gut the fish and take them to market on a bike. Haha.
Yeah i think you're right about the height thing. What's few few inches between friends? hehe. Yeah i'll confess to a couple of white lies . First height. I'M NOT 5' 4" 5' 2" on a good day. Secondly I'M A WOMAN ( yeah a nugly woman admittedly) Dealbreaker? haha. kidding. no ... OMG how can i say this I'M NOT A LEO I'M A TAURUS. There i've said it could you still love me. ( I don't put my birthday on the internet.)
Cheers vans i can tick all those things you said. Though okcupid ( based on my answers to their matching questions makes me out to be the worst mannered person in the UK). I can't think what answers i gave to get that conclusion. Oh well. Updates to foillow . Watch this space.
Ps i was kinda hoisted by my own petard. I suggested the music venue to a meetup group that i belong to and got kinda talked into being the host for it. Which is like an organiser, meeter, greeter, put people at easer. Which i don't mind doing but not on a first date. Sorry Jan ( her name) you just sit by yourself while i stand outside meeting and greeting. Would she be impressed .haha.
pps I went to my camera club last night and i'm so unphotogenic ( a euphemism for ugly) that i don't think they took a decent pic of me. Call yourself photographers haha. I feel ( and prob look) like Humpty Dumpty after he fell off the wall. All the Kings horses and all the Kings men couldn't put Tangy together again.

The height thing is good to confess to, it's kinda funny actually to say only 2 inches off, not that far off. The zodiac sign is something you can say you didn't really know the difference. Most men I meet are pretty clueless about sun signs, tho I'm really into it. Give us the latest news!

Hey Update time. date all set for saturday. YAY!!! exciting eh. Yeah i told her about my lack of inches ( and my height hehe) and she said no probs, she is only 5'. It never rains but it pours. i'm now messaging, emailing, skyping and phoning another lady and we're getting on like a horse ( sorry house-my silly sense of humour) on fire. trouble is she's in Scotland and i'm in England but she comes from near me and wants to come back down south. For those of you in the US Scotland is up north and i'm down in the south of England. More to follow. Good i hope.

Good on you!!!

A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush!

FINALLY a semi-witted reason to say that!! Ive been waiting all my life!