Apology given ........... now just move on!!

Nothing major, I guess ..

Husband climbed down my throat about something that was quite simply not my fault, nor could it be avoided. It was all telephonic.

During the same conversation I was able to defend myself and tell him that I was upset by his words / actions.

He apologized and ... well, according to him - that is that!

But ............ many hours later, I am still hurting. Does this mean I did not accept his apology? I honestly don't even feel his apology was sincere to begin with.

As far as he is concerned, he has said sorry and I should just be cheerful and forget anything ever happened.

It is just not that simple for me.

I was already dealing with something when it happened so I broke down in some serious tears and really felt horrible for the rest of the day. (He doesn't know this).

Why can't I just get over it and move on?

I wish I could explain some more feelings to him but he will simply tell me that he has said sorry and that I should just forget it.

I will, but right now I am still so hurt. Even though he said sorry.

I am confused by my feelings.

Sorry if I have been repetitive.

I understand, Sabrina. The reason you can't move on may be for different reasons. The one I'm painfully aware of, though, is that so much hurt has been piled on that it's like someone pulls off the scab and rubs salt in the wound.

If you feel that his apology wasn't sincere, that's a good reason, too, for not being able to drop it.

{{{{{{{{{{{{Sabrina}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

Give yourself time and be especially gentle with you hon, this sounds really tough (((((((((((( Sabrina )))))))))))))

Thank you so much Tomi.

Yes, if I think about this "quietly", I would have to admit that more hurt was piled on than I realized. He jumped to a conclusion and it wasn't the case at all.

I think I am also feeling a fair amount of surprise, for this is not usually his style.

Thanks for understanding.

Thank you Fuzzy.

Yes, it was tough and I think I am especially surprised by the magnitude of my feelings. I certainly don't want him to feel that I am holding a grudge, for that isn't what this is about.

I will try to be gentle with me!

what was the argument about?

Thank you for your response wantslove, however, I wasn't looking for support on what we argued about but rather on the fact that I was still feeling hurt after an apology. So, on that vein, I chose not to disclose the actual reason for the argument.

(((Sabrina))) Ok, let me tell you, when I was reading your post, my hubby was behind me reading it as well and he got that look, yeah the one that says, "why is she so upset"??
Well, I told him that one of the worst things men do and we, women hate, is thinking that becuase they apologized is like start a new page, it is for them, but for us it can be really hard. I usually hold a really bad feeling for a while until I can exactly say what I feel.
When I need him to hear me, I just tell him that, and it usually starts with ..."I don't even care for your opinion, but you are gonna hear me now"...
Maybe not so harsh, but there are times when they need to feel the weight we feel.
Hang in there hon~