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Maybe he chooses to opt out of facing your pain or of trying to give you any decent explanation. Maybe he doesn't have any decent explanation. Maybe when he's on drugs is the only time he believes he needs a close relationship, and after rehab he's not or believes he's not the kind of person for a close relationship, maybe he believes being in relationship was keeping him in his drug problem?? Maybe he's in denial of some kind, or flipped into a dissociative or other such state and so just blocks you out cos his former life with you doesn't gel with his current view of himself.
Either way, especially by how he's treating you now, you can see he's not fit for you, not capable of respecting love, not worthy of the love you gave him and are trying to still give him, nor even of respect ... I'm so so sorry for the nasty way you were treated and the hole that left in you. It will heal, especially as you do let yourself accept that you suffered a shocking loss that won't be undone. You loved in good faith; now you need to find ways to be loving to yourself and let your heart grieve and be gradually restored. ![]()
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Yup exactly as river says xxx did I say things right too? I hope
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I just hope u see the light honey and do right by your feelings. Xxx am off to bed now but feel free to pm when u feel anxious or whatever
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No problemo xxx
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I recommended a book for you and it sounds like you have not read it as you are doing exactly opposite what the book says, sorry to be so harsh but until you accept that he does not want you, you will be stuck in this cycle.
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Glad that you read it and am sorry that you are still going through the pain, i know what you are feeling lost my partner to drugs and a new druggy boyfriend and we were together 15 years
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Instead of accepting his answer of "don't trust a drug addict" etc, you choose to believe there MUST be more, and you get stuck on the belief that you are owed a more indepth or more meaningful explanation. Instead of focusing on the fact that you were rejected and use that bitter hard truth to move on, you are fixated on why were you rejected. Why is inconsequential at this point, its been months and the why's he's given you haven't been good enough. In short my dear, you are complicating your own life. Push him off of this darn pedestal you've placed him on and see him for what he is. A man who woke up from his drug coma and decided that he doesn't want you as part of his sobriety.
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Hon,
Hate to tell you- but I think he met someone else. Explains why he cut you off, made it a quick phoncall ( he didn't want to cheat- but didn't want to tell the truth). He knows the hurt he has caused you, but selfishly, doesn't want to deal. The good news - depending - he will probably come back to you, once he gets over the new one. The question then will be, do you want him back? |
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That's what I said niceguy. Xx
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He got a tattoo on his arm with my name on it, on the phone he told me that he was high and that it was a mistake too Sent from my SM-N9005 using Tapatalk |
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Lol muay! So true- let me guess, guilty as charged!
Light, honey- we say this coz we care. He is guilty- not that it will help. It's not you, really- I used to hate hearing that. But it's not. They want to see what else is out there- which is not a reflection on you, it simply means they are scared - afraid to be in one place, with one person for too long. So they meet someone who is totally wrong, which means they can try again in a few months with Someone else. I am not a jerk, I know you don't want to believe it, hell, you probably won't. That's ok too- hey we are strangers, what do we know? But the reality is, he cares enough not to hurt you directly. He care enough about himself to not tell you the truth and risk a verbal bashing. Trust me one day he will return. Oh and just one more thing- stop and think- there is always signs, many signs that we ignore. Go over it carefully. Nothing happens overnight, unfortunately. I wish you all the love in the world and ability to move on xxx |
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![]() I don't know. I just don't think that Iran or rehab is a place to meet someone. He claims he doesn't love me anymore and I accept it. Trust me he said enough to hurt me, he could have said that he found someone - wouldn't hurt any less or more. I wanted to know the truth and I wanted to know if I actually knew the real him. If "us" was real. I never give up on our relationship and he used to admire that. Now is the first time when I just don't have other choice, I asked him if I should come to London and visit him, he said no. I don't wanna hurt him either. .. but so incredibly hard to let go |
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Was actually in Iran or u presume he actually went there? Weird place to go to rehab if ya ask me... Unless he's from there? Is he Arabian?
I wouldn't even bother thinking that , he will only push u more away if he thinks ur guna stalk him or something Hun. Xxx |
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Don't they usually do arranged marages? Is the dad full? I work with a guy from Afghanistan- obv different - but even out here, in Australia he was set up for marriage! It is the culture...
Still, mayb his councillor told him to cut off all outside contact- until he is in a sobor state that is a possibility!? All the best xxx |
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Yeah Arabian cultures usually marry into their family don't they? Cultural differences could be a factor xxx
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