[The Fox & the Hound]

So, today my friend got annoyed at me,& then she ignored me.For basically, the whole day. I asked her why, she said "I'm angry at you". I then asked is she was embarrassed me, & she said "I'll text you. She then told me that she doesn't want me to ever go to her locker, because she want to talk this guy. I asked her, if she would want us to be friends outside of school, & she said she yes. She doesn't want me to be by her in the hallways, she doesn't want me to walk to class with her, she doesn't even really want to talk to me. Say Hi to me, but not much more then that.

[winter4me]

She is Not a friend. She is concerned with the opinions (real or imagined, and certainly immature) of someone else.
Don't let someone have you as an invisible friend. This is not fair to you, you are worth a Whole lot more.
And boy, do some of the things people care about in school sure look stupid a few years after graduation....

[Rose3]

It might not be that she's embarrassed. It might instead be simply that her interests are elsewhere, and if she is interested in a certain male then she probably would not want to be seen with any other male. Sounds like she's trying to place a lot of restrictions on you. So ask yourself if this is friendly behaviour?

[The Fox & the Hound]

She's a female,& I'm female... So, it isn't anything like that...

We use to be BFF,& we'd do everything together. She seemed to get annoyed with me easily,among other things...

My BFF when I was 18 after 10 years of being best friends turned n said she didn't want to be my friend anymore. I certainly feel for u as I am still hurting til this day. I hope in time u find a new friend or friends that really care for you xxxxx take care

[recentdiscovery]

Is this the same friend? I thought we told you to cut her loose. She is not your friend.

[The Fox & the Hound]

Originally Posted by recentdiscovery

Is this the same friend? I thought we told you to cut her loose. She is not your friend.

No I don't know why she's doing this now

Why does everyone hate me?

I look different, & I act different.,but I try not to. But it never works out.

[recentdiscovery]

Are you in high school? That can be hard even for people not suffering from any illnesses at all. School kids can be so mean, I am sorry to hear that you're going through that with your peers.

How long have you been friends with these two "friends" you've mentioned recently?

[The Fox & the Hound]

Both since 3rd, I met them in girl scouts. My ex-friend, we always had issues, & were never the best of friends.

My other friend(the one who I made this thread about), we never had the big of issues, we fought from time to time.Nothing major though.I was actually suspecting, something like this.

[recentdiscovery]

Well that sucks, sounds like you two were good friends for a while.

As I am not a woman I won't comment on the hows or whys of her acting this way, female relationships are a mystery to me. I never understand why you guys do what you do to each other sometimes.

I will say I hope she wakes up and realizes no guy is worth losing a good long friendship like that. I've only got one friend still around from 3rd grade, he's far away, but I still consider him a good friend even after 25 years, we've kept in contact and get together when we can. I hope you guys can patch it up

[The Fox & the Hound]

It seems that, she wants to be popular. She avoid me in the hall(went the other way).

But,we can be friends, just not at school.

[Aoikun]

Sometimes in school years people go through changes with how they react toward people because they're getting older and learning new ways of dealing with the world. But as they change, they are usually becoming who they are going to end up being for the rest of their life. A friend who is embarrassed to be seen with you is not a friend, that is a user. Users care about getting and never giving in relationships.

If you can talk to her about how you're feeling, say why it bothers you and ask that she please change, you really need to base your decision on her answer. If she realizes the pain she caused you, she will apologize and you two can go back to before. But if she still says she's embarrassed by you, it means that she doesn't really want anything to do with you anymore unless she needs something. That's not being a friend. I've had people do this with me so I can understand what you're going through. Good luck and please try to make the right decision for yourself.

[The Fox & the Hound]

Oh... I forgot to mention this yesterday.

She made up LIES, saying that her mom said all these things about ME. I told her- "maybe I'll ask your mom, why she thinks this.". Then she told me, my mom doesn't think that... I do.

So I look weird, & not normal, I'm annoying, & the reason people bully/be mean to her? Because of me.

I can't even really talk to her. She is just like... Remember last night? What we talked about? & She told me, lets stick to that

I hate myself anymore now, I do not know why people hate me so much.MY BF is being incredibly rude to me. Oh, & she said more people talked to her today. She usually wears "comfy clothes". Today, she wore makeup(heavy enough so you could see it), wore a clothing that everyone else wore, & looked like a "Popular" girl.

[recentdiscovery]

If "fitting in" is what she thinks she needs to do right now, there is nothing you can do to change it, you just need to accept it and move on as hard as it is. I would not entertain the "friends after school" proposal. Real friends are friends 100% of the time, not just when it's convenient for them.

You don't need friends to validate yourself... that's something I am going through right now too. Remember this is just for today, not forever. You will make friends when you're not trying to, and those people will be the people that will accept you for who you are, not who they want you to be.

[winter4me]

Originally Posted by muaythailady88

My BFF when I was 18 after 10 years of being best friends turned n said she didn't want to be my friend anymore. I certainly feel for u as I am still hurting til this day. I hope in time u find a new friend or friends that really care for you xxxxx take care

I had a similar experience...(& so did my daughter)...
for myself, it did hurt, and still does now and again; you see, years later the friend and I connected on line, we had a great online reunion, talked months, but she would never see me in person...eventually it came undone, again.
Who knows what happens...perhaps someone feels like this about me, I can't imagine, but maybe I don't want to think too deeply on this...
Best to let go, remember the good time, and move on.

[winter4me]

Originally Posted by The Fox & the Hound

Oh... I forgot to mention this yesterday.

She made up LIES, saying that her mom said all these things about ME. I told her- "maybe I'll ask your mom, why she thinks this.". Then she told me, my mom doesn't think that... I do.

So I look weird, & not normal, I'm annoying, & the reason people bully/be mean to her? Because of me.

I can't even really talk to her. She is just like... Remember last night? What we talked about? & She told me, lets stick to that

I hate myself anymore now, I do not know why people hate me so much.MY BF is being incredibly rude to me. Oh, & she said more people talked to her today. She usually wears "comfy clothes". Today, she wore makeup(heavy enough so you could see it), wore a clothing that everyone else wore, & looked like a "Popular" girl.

My daughter had a BF, who moved on to a different crowd, even had someone else tell my daughter she was no longer a friend. My daughter was initially very hurt. Then, my daughter said "She's now with those girls that sit around combing their hair..."
And she moved on. (they even played on the same team for a while, and I was proud of my daughter, who treated her like any other team member, while the former BF was clearly uncomfortable when I would say hello...etc) Today, my daughter is grown, confident, and has a wonderful group of supportive, real friends. You can grow from this. Focus on your strengths, do not be afraid to be yourself, pursue your interests. The rest will come. Honestly, there is no point in beating yourself up for things that are out of your control, or that say a whole lot more about someone else than about you.