[niceguy]

The emotions are back, leaving me feeling weak again. For the most part my life is sailing along beautifully again, now that they are gone. Still, it is like I am impotent and out of control which I really hate. To know you love someone so deeply, that the pain will never end. That they are incapable of giving you the love you so desperately crave and deserve is at best debilitating.

I know they will never return and it is what it is. Yet in my heart, on my most basic human level - my heart beats for only one. I will love you forever.

[Frankbtl]

Hi niceguy, I know it's got to be really painful for you right now. Feelings that strong don't just go away or vanish however much you "logically" tell yourself anything. And everything can theoretically be "just fine" in life but if something's missing..........
But while the pain is natural now, given time, however hard it may be to believe where you're at, the pain can ease, maybe slowly but...........And if you can gradually allow yourself to believe that there can be someone just as important in in your life.....maybe no-one will replace her but they can be equally important and give you what you need/what you want in life too without the pain you went through with the past relationship.
I know it probably won't really help that much right now but at least you know in your heart that you made the right decision in finishing the relationship. And just in doing that you've already made big steps in allowing yourself to move towards a much better future.
But for the rest....really do feel for you, and here if you want to talk/want support whenever.
Alison

[PeachCream22]

You're always welcome to talk about your feelings whatsoever if you feel like you can't handle it. It sounds like you're in a lot of pain. I'm so sorry.

It's normal, and it's okay to feel like that. Just go with the flow of your emotions, because you have a lot on your plate right now. My heart goes out to you, because i sort of understand that indescribable feeling of painful heartache.

[niceguy]

I just miss them soo much. I want to say I want them. I want no other. I should have chosen them when I could- now I live with regret. I see them everywhere, (do the double take) but its not them- its my reflection of what I want to see; but never will.
I have everything and nothing. Life is perfect except for one thing my heart was stolen away and I have never fully got it back. I have tried to be tough - act like I'm fine: but I never will be. I am incapable of loving another. I think they have ruined me for all others.
Arghh...douche**

[Frankbtl]

Hi niceguy, I know it must hurt a lot especially as it wasn't that long ago the relationship properly ended. And.......being tough.......pretending/acting like you're fine can sometimes temporarily help but there comes a point where it just makes things even harder if that's not what you feel in your heart. Sometimes it can just help to "let it out"/talk about it, what do you think? But you know here's one place at least you don't have to be tough.......act like you're fine.
So yes, really early days (not that long ago) from the breakup. You may need to give yourself plenty of time to grieve the ending of the relationship. Go easy on yourself.
As for loving again, I'd say that first of all you need to gradually get over/move on from this and then in time........it's going to be more a matter of (when you meet the right person) you can't help loving again if you leave yourself open to just the tiniest possibility that there may be someone else out there.
And as ever: here for you
Alison