tired of family members

im sick of family members who are always sarcastic & not understanding of my mental illness. get out of the house it will do u some good, you are overmedicated, id like to see u go off all your meds, be a big girl & pull up your britches, u have got to be the most unstable person ive ever met, quit getting depressed over the least little thing. these are just some of the comments ive had to endure from family members who are harsh & dont understand. it makes me feel very sad & alone & hurt. the only one who understands & is kind & supportive is my dad who also has mental illness. one time my mom is like u & your dad can have a pill popping party when u visit him. come to find out shes on zoloft & resteril. hypocrit--i get so pissed. im tired of being hurt---ive decided to be pissed. being passive with peoples comments hasnt gotten me anywhere. does anyone else have people in your lives who are so cruel & offer no support?

I can relate totally. I lost my social security disability for 6 months last year and lived in my house with no electric for 2 months rather than stay any longer with my sister who had spasms because I stepped out of the shower wet without drying off first and got her precious rug wet. I thought that was what rugs were there for.

My friends and family just don't get it. I can't go back to work. Not yet. I wish I could.

My strategy is simply avoidance. Avoid talking about yourself and simply avoid much contact. But I am pretty much a hermit. I like the peace though. Try to find your own peace with where you are now. And know that where you are now is not where you will be.

I can definetly relate. I am looked at as the emotionally disturbed one in the family. Even though my sister has serious issues too, she is at least able to function in life because she is high strung she has to always be doing something. I just collapse, stop functioning and withdraw. Right now I am trying to get out of a major depression after several crisis' happened to me. I am on meds and just praying for the fog to lift. I haven't worked in almost 2 years. My bf was very unsympathetic for a while because he was unemployed too. He practically ignored me, would walk around huffing and puffing and complain about me not working. I think he wanted to break up and send me packing. He is acting ok now because he is working. Everyone I talk to wants to know why I'm not working, am I looking, what is the problem. I don't tell them I'm depressed because they will say, so what everyone gets depressed. My family and friends don't bother with me much. They call or email to see how I am and when they see nothings changed they disappear again. People can't deal with other people's pain I guess. Some people are just insensitive and unsympathetic. Some people don't want to know about a person's depression or suffering because then it disrupts their happy little lives. They rather leave you alone until you get back to normal and then they will come around. I don't understand it. But I do understand where your coming from and I'll just say to stop trying to get them to understand and sympathize, just find people that can relate like this group or maybe a support group in your area. I myself have stopped trying to make people understand. I tell them whats going on and then leave it alone. Hope things get better for you.

Family relationships can be painful and difficult to cope with. I'm sorry you're feeling bad. The holidays seems to make these situations more intense. Hope you start to feel better. Be patient with yourself.