[tryinghard973]

Baldness and Mental Heath

This is such an issue in my life. Maybe its just me but who knows. To me it lead to depression,social phobias, paranoia and more. I'm 36 now and by no means am .I being egotistical. But I did OK with the ladies but now that I'm getting older my hair is thinning. I'm lucky to have had my hair until I can start seeing it at 36. I wear hats all the time. Even when I'm by myself. ipI never go to bar bar shops and found ever product they have made. The product does look great but I feel like I'm putting on some fake act like I have to fit into society. It is such a horrible thing.

I don't k ow what else to do. I even looked into that scalp tattooing procedure. When I brush my teeth I keep the light off so I don't Have to see it in the mirror. I even read that a kid was gonna kill himself from the teasing. It really has an effect on me. Its really bad.

[Trippin2.0]

Fighting the inevitable is fruitless and uneccessarily stressful.

What do you hope to achieve from hating baldness?

Will it bring your hair back, does it make you feel good, or does it make you feel manly?

Seriously, what is the pay out here?

Baldness doesn't change who you are as a person, it doesn't taint your personality or tarnish your character.

Sure it must be hard to adjust to, I'm no good with change myself, and the kind that affects your confidence is very difficult to deal with.
I grieved the loss of my cupsize post-pregnancy for much too long.

Being angry, feeling upset and less than (a woman) did not bring my breasts back.

All it did was formulate a very low opinion of myself, 1 I had never entertained before.

So again I ask (for you to answer for yourself, not me) what is the payoff here?

Best thing you can do for yourself is acceptance.

I mean, just look at us fall to pieces over cosmetic issues, essentially you're (I'm over it) sweating the small stuff.
God forbid either 1 of us is faced with life altering troubles!

My aunt voluntarily had a double masectomy, now that speaks volumes to me on so many different levels. Gives me a healthier perspective and rectifies my priorities instantly.

On a side note, my BF is 29, I can already see where he'll lose hair first, its already quite thin in certain areas, and for now he keeps it short. He will eventually, probably soon, bald in much the same way his dad did and I have no problem with that.

Besides, Dwayne Johnson is hot lots of men make bald work for them, don't let it ruin you.

"Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference"

[tryinghard973]

Wow I really thought I would hear more then just one comment. Balding is very tough for me.

[Yoda]

You are perceiving baldness as a negative. Your feelings are yours but not everyone feels that baldness is negative or unattractive. Patrick Stewart is bald but he is mucho sexy and desirable. As they say, beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.

[offthegrid]

OP, You seem to be paranoid about people noticing and judging you for this so you have built up resentment about it. I understand how it feels to not like things about yourself but other's don't notice or care as much as you think they might. As much as it bothers you it is considered a normal feature. If anyone has ever called you on thinning hair it has less to do with you and more to do with their own issues. There are plenty of attractive men with thinning hair and if you keep it shorter, it will defiantly be less noticable.

I'm sorry, I am balding as well and i understand the panic that sets in. bald people can be perceived differently, but the positive is that you are in your mid 30s so it's not too uncommon at our age, and it fits in with a 36 year old, mature male image.

[tryinghard973]

Yes I understand, I suffer from paranoia so I always think people are looking at me. Paranoia to me is like cancer. I rather have cancer then think people are going to set me up. I try to fit in and hide it. I isolate and now that I'm looking at myself at 36 I'm having like a nervous breakdown. Its hard to deal with feelings when nor drinking.

My condition had altered my personality. I think I'm very boring, I'm on disability, I'm in debt, bi polar. I never looked at myself the way I am now. I feel like I have to look good when I rather have the personality to make someone laugh. I'm so ready to drink but I know I can't. I'm 36 and if I don't face this now I'm a goner. I really think its paranoid schizophrenia and that word scares the **** out of me. My past I was so ugly on the inside. I never cared about anybody but myself. I use to be fun to be around, now I feel like a cancer. My addiction and bi polar or scitzophrenia ruined me.