[Wildlanexo]

I often hear people say that flirting is normal, and there's no harm in it. But when it comes to flirting while in a committed relationship, I personally find that to be a different story. When you're single you can be with, flirt with, do with whoever you want, but once you're in a serious relationship you're committing yourself to one person and one person only. That being said, how do people consider it "normal" and "okay" to flirt with someone other than your spouse? I have always thought of flirting as something you do with someone you have a crush on or want to develop a relationship with, so I definitely wouldn't be engaging in that type of thing while I'm in a serious relationship. Does anyone have any thoughts on this? Am I missing something about the whole flirting thing? Because I just feel like when you trace it back to the original reason why people flirt it's more than just "harmless" as they claim.

[Sunnysunshine]

I completely agree. I know that when I am committed to someone, no one else is an option. I enjoy the person I am with and focus all of my usual 'flirting' in his direction. I do understand that being with someone for a long period of time, things may get stagnant. But flirting to me reads exactly how you explain it wild, showing interest in someone else. Why else would you be flirting? I know a part of it comes down to security, being secure in your relationship and within yourself, but I don't see what that has to do with giving someone else the attention that your spouse should be giving you.

[healingme4me]

To me, the flirt notion can be a slippery slope into one of two directions.
Basic friendliness with other gender, a smile, some eye contact, basic greetings, seems fine.
Overly friendly behavior, can be slippery for some, and travel path to grass is greener other side of fence behavior, sure. Not everyone travels that.
Then there's the path, to jealous behavior, for basic friendly behavior. I had to look down from men, lest wanted tirade at home. Why can one not treat men and women, the same?

So, to me, it lacks concrete definitions. I have other deal breakers, than being friendly to opposite gender.

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[Elektra_]

hi. if u do it on purpose then i find it disrespectful but if is ur nature to joke and tease then is ok. then u have dif levels of flirting...

[KatiePillar]

It all depends on the people in the relationship. I like to be in committed relationships, but I also like to point out girls (and sometimes guys) that are cute.
Because well, while I'm in that relationship, it's not like others will stop being cute or whatnot. I know myself, and I can flirt without the intention of cheating.

Again, it depends on the people. General rule? I would just err on the cautious side.
Most people are insecure and would automatically say that it will lead to more.

You can't control who you do & do not find attractive. You can't control who you are & are not mentally compatible with. But you can control your actions. And you can figure out where your significant other stands on the matter & respect that. Though this is coming from someone who LACKS that essential respect, but that's my say on the subject.