[femmeb0t]

Hello everyone, im in a semi new relationship of 8months. Its with someone amazing who im thankful for for sharing each others life. But lately, I have been having anger issues, letting the little things get to me and acting a certain way that is uncalled for. My boyfriend has mentioned to me and had opened up to me about it recently which I am happy and thankful for instead of drifting away, but before that happens I don't want to lose him, I have had anger issues before, and in my last relationship I have seen that I have had the same problems and I see myself getting to that point again and it literally scares me to the point where I cry about it... I cannot believe I am doing the same thing again, It scares me that I will lose this great person in my life and I don't know how to control it.

I realize I have a problem, I need to find a coping mechanism. I have hardly had time to do things, like hobbies im in to and I feel like I need to get that back and could possibly help me de stress. But in the moment, how can I avoid blowing up about the little things? Is there a book that anyone recommends on how to deal with anger?

Thanks for hearing my rants.

~The girl who just wants to live in peace and dominate her anger.

[kaliope]

you could probably go on amazon and type in anger management and get a whole list of self help books on anger management. the key thing to know about anger is that it is a secondary emotion. you feel something else first..lonliness, insecurity, resentment, fear, hunger and not knowing how to respond to that emotion you respond in anger. so when you are angry about something, you have to ask yourself, what was that primary feeling and address that and the anger will go away. take care.

[femmeb0t]

Makes perfect sense Kaliope, thank you for that. I have noticed it does always occur when I let any one of those first emotions get to me, and I get annoyed with it, mixed in with other things that are going on=horrible mood. Day ruined after that

This stuff I know already, its applying it now to fix it. I hear counting to 10 could help, while that you can think and realize what made you mad in the first place to realize its not all that big of a deal. Anger never solves an issue.

This I will try and I will take your advice as well.

Life is too short to be pissed off all the time.

I also found this book on amazon already, so im looking forward to start it!