[melanie30]

iam 11 weeks pregnant and feeling stretching pains i guess you can call it. i have so many different thoughts in my head its crazy. i have onlt had nausea no throwing up. i can see my waist line is getting bigger anda bit of a bump starting to form. other than i dont feel pregnant and i keep reading bad pregnancy things on the net that worry me alot. my first ultrasound is coming up in a couple of weeks iam beyond nervous.
iam going to be 30 in a couple of weeks and he is 34.

my boyfriend and i got into a fight 2 weeks ago which stressed me right out and he broke up with me and said he wil still be here for me and the baby and then says stupid things like we can date eachother again after the baby is born or date other people. he has called me psycho a couple of times. he keeps thinking and saying im keeping secrets when iam not. he only does that when he texts me and i dont answer right away. he started talking about doing things seperatly so that is how I am thinking now. last night he also said to me iam a negative person and he needs to surround himself with positive people and that the way I am acting weird and non talkative is pushing him further and further away from me. we were lookin at places together now he doesnt even want to talk about it. he lives right around the corner from me and i hardly see him anymore. one minute he is talking like he did before houses, etc then the next he is talking about lawyers and telling me when i start dating again not to date his friends. i dont get it. he also keeps saying let things flow on their own between us things will work out on their own he is really stressing me out with all of this.

[waiting4]

I'm sorry your bf and you are having troubles, especially now, with your pregnancy. Sounds almost as if he's having a 'mid-life' (although he's a bit young for that now) but at any rate is scared to death of the commitment to a family.

First, and I know this is soo easy to say, but try not to worry so much about being pregnant. To start with your hormones are going crazy, which is normal, and if this is your first baby (which it sounds like it is) it's also perfectly understandable to be nervous or worried. Everything is new. Try not to read the 'horror stories' online about pregnancy. Far more woman have successful pregnancies than those who have problems, so try to focus on that. Of course, read up all you can on giving birth etc. as you maybe be on your own (without bf that is) for that.

Also, please remember, that no matter how mean he is being now, he WILL have to take financial responsibility for this baby as it is his. Your comment about his 'talking about lawyers' is confusing.

Please, think about yourself, right now (because if you do, you're also thinking about the baby) and try not to let him get to you. In fact, as soon as he starts acting up, it would be helpful if you could just cut him off, gently but firmly, and tell him he is stressing you and you can't really handle it right now. Time to form some boundries, or he'll continue to make your life miserable, while he tries to figure out what he's feeling.

Btw....nausea without getting sick is fine. I had two children and only felt gaggy, never got sick. Eat crackers when you have that feeling--it's an old helper but it's still works.

Take care!

[Travelinglady]

Sweetie, I can understand the wanting to cry. Pregnancy affects hormones, plus you are dealing with the problems with your boyfriend.

I have a suggestion to make: Please stop reading bad things on the Internet about pregnancy. Most pregnancies turn out fine.

I never felt baby movements at all during my two pregnancies! Right now all you will be able to detect is the little one growing just like he/she is supposed to. I lost my baby weight, too, so that's something to not worry about either.

Okay?

Feel free to continue posting on this thread. We want to know how things are going. We care!

[healingme4me]

Pregnancy is stressful, your bf just needs to man up,and not add to things, right now. Making sure you are well rested, well nourished and as little stressed as possible matters.

I did feel movements until 16+ weeks on each(3). Try reading the baby books, zero to nine months, those ones. Look at baby gear, layette, baby names, those things.

I was a little nauseous first two, lemonade, i discovered is helpful. All out sickness, for baby #3, which clued me in, i was preggers.

It's an enjoyable experience, in some regards. Maybe, when dust settles and he sees the u/s,, tune will change???



Oh meant to say, years later from last baby, you'd never know, unless i showed some stretch marks. And i know someone, genetically blessed to have no stretch marks. We're all different, that way.
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