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Old May 06, 2014, 01:01 PM
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So last summer/fall this girl and I that I work with became best friends. We hung out all the time and did stuff together almost everyday. I saw her at work so it was hard not to. She eventually old me that she like me a lot and all this other stuff but that she wasnt ready for a relationship. She had just broken up with her boyfriend that had treated her bad. Still does treat her bad. They did have a baby together though. So after she told me this we just kept on liking each other and we had this weird flirty friendship but nothing ever happened between us. Then out of no where she got with this random doof. It destroyed me. The whole time I was with her or close friends with her i was kind of waiting for her to get over her ex. But she got with this guy and lost it. I got depressed. Super jealous and butthurt. I didnt know what to do so i started avoiding her. eventually she broke up with him because she cheated on him with her ex. She never got back together with her ex. But i always thought she had for a couple months after that and i just kind of kept avoiding her. it was hard because we worked together. But she would always try to push to be my friend and do stuff. I never really understood why because i thought she was with her ex. She sent me a not one time saying that she misses me and that im funny, wierd, hansdsome and to be her friend and get into her life. I even told her once that i dont know if i can really be friends with you because im always going to want more. She just said " i just miss you." so i tried bieng her friend and we hung out a couple of times. I want to tell her how i truly feel because i regret never telling her every day. but lately i feel like she has been avoiding me and being really passive and i dont understand. I mean she wanted to be my friend so badly she would pester me about it. And now its just really weird because im trying to be her friend and she is avoiding me. I just am full of regret for never telling her how i felt when it mattered because i know she felt the same way. I feel like its probably to late and i just need to move on.

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Old May 07, 2014, 08:03 AM
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It sounds like you did actually tell her how you felt, that you weren't sure if you could be friends because you would always want more?

Moving on does seem like a good idea. It sounds like she makes some consistently bad relationship choices. It sounds like her first ex still has a hold on her. The hot/cold stuff she is pulling on you is also bizarre and a red flag. I'm sorry you are in this situation
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Old May 08, 2014, 02:04 PM
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I think your instinct is correct....move on. This girl may like you and miss you and all that but it does not seem like she knows what she wants. I think it would be a disaster for you!
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Old May 08, 2014, 02:15 PM
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So last summer/fall this girl and I that I work with became best friends. We hung out all the time and did stuff together almost everyday. I saw her at work so it was hard not to. She eventually old me that she like me a lot and all this other stuff but that she wasnt ready for a relationship. She had just broken up with her boyfriend that had treated her bad. Still does treat her bad. They did have a baby together though. So after she told me this we just kept on liking each other and we had this weird flirty friendship but nothing ever happened between us. Then out of no where she got with this random doof. It destroyed me. The whole time I was with her or close friends with her i was kind of waiting for her to get over her ex. But she got with this guy and lost it. I got depressed. Super jealous and butthurt. I didnt know what to do so i started avoiding her. eventually she broke up with him because she cheated on him with her ex. She never got back together with her ex. But i always thought she had for a couple months after that and i just kind of kept avoiding her. it was hard because we worked together. But she would always try to push to be my friend and do stuff. I never really understood why because i thought she was with her ex. She sent me a not one time saying that she misses me and that im funny, wierd, hansdsome and to be her friend and get into her life. I even told her once that i dont know if i can really be friends with you because im always going to want more. She just said " i just miss you." so i tried bieng her friend and we hung out a couple of times. I want to tell her how i truly feel because i regret never telling her every day. but lately i feel like she has been avoiding me and being really passive and i dont understand. I mean she wanted to be my friend so badly she would pester me about it. And now its just really weird because im trying to be her friend and she is avoiding me. I just am full of regret for never telling her how i felt when it mattered because i know she felt the same way. I feel like its probably to late and i just need to move on.
you're gonna want to move on before you really get hurt, at this point she is not sure what she wants and this could end very badly..she is doing the right thing by avoiding you and you should do the same. it was good that you were honest with your intentions to clear up any misconceptions..kudos to you for that. now the thing to do is move forward and put this behind you.
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