My plans fell through

I posted recently about a sexless relationship and wanting to leave it. A close friend from high school had offered me a large sum of money to help me find an apartment and get on my feet again. It was a hugely generous offer. Unfortunately, my friend came to his senses and withdrew it.

I was all ready to move out and move on, and now I'm back to square one.

Sex four times in a year, and no other physical affection in this relationship. We've talked many times about this since June 2013 and he refuses to change (well, he PROMISES to change and just doesn't).

Now my bf has made a demand of his own. He wants us to start going out to his favorite bar again on Thursday nights. The reason I stopped going is the couple we sit with (his close friends). I get to watch them canoodle all night while my boyfriend sits two feet away from me and talks to other people. It's a NIGHTMARE being there.

Thanks for letting me vent yet AGAIN. I'm seriously considering packing up all my stuff today while he's at work. Of course, then I'd be homeless. Sigh.

Have you tried talking to him about this to explore how he feels about sex? Four times in a year seems very low to me. But I think that sex drive can vary widely between individuals. Perhaps you could try to weight up the good and bad aspects of this relationship, in terms of things that are important to you. That might help you to be sure whether ending the relationship is the best decision or not.

We've talked about once a month about this since June 2013. He admits he has a very low sex drive, but he also said he'd be happy with sex once a week. Which obviously hasn't happened. He's even said he feels pressured if I initiate it, so I don't do anything either.

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Can you ask one of the therapists here on the site how to appraoch him? Is there anyway you can support yourself to begin saving (med - long term until the real issue surfaces )
Sex drive is one thing, btu if he talks to other peopple and there si no physical contact, that's another. You need to start planning for yourself - it won't hurt.

4 times a year!! that's ridiculous there is no reason to continue to put up with behavior of this kind, i would suggest you end this relationship immediately.

now this bar crap..he can go to the bar by himself, and live by himself and do everything else by himself

he has no respect for your needs and wishes, he will never change.
i advise you to cut your losses, intimacy and affection are critical to any healthy relationship.it is the necessary glue that ties it all together.

you can do better..toss him to the wind...hope this helps

God, if I had the money I would! $380 a month from welfare just won't provide a place to live here. :-(

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is there a family member you can live with? maybe an old friend or something.
this situation is only getting worse..i would start looking for solutions

Nope, no one I can live with on account of my chihuahua and Boston terrier. And giving them up is out of the question. I'm looking for a part time job, but it's slow going.

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the part time job is a ray of hope, it's a step in the right direction..good luck!