Boyfriend acting kinda weird....

So before we started this relationship we knew each other for a while as he goes to my college and is in one of my classes. We exchanged numbers a few weeks ago& we started texting.. since then it's been non-stop texting, the day we started talking he asked me if i had a boyfriend and he said he thought i found him annoying, he told me he liked me and had his eyes on me since day one. Going into this i was expecting him to be subtle and relaxed about it like most teenage boys (we are both 17) but we went out on a Saturday & he had plans with his friends but decided to go out with them later in the evening as he said he wanted to spend as much time with me as possible. Well spent the whole day together, i really like him and i had fun but while we were at the park he asked me for the password on my phone, i said no and he gave me his phone and password expecting me to give him mine, he took my phone and i tried to get it back but he kept stopping me.

I think it's too early for him to be asking me for my password, it was the first day!. All day he held my hand and kept squeezing it really tight, he was constantly staring at me and trying to kiss me. We were lying down in the park just hugging and he tried to kiss me but i moved & he sat on me and held my arms down and kissed me about 4 times. i gave his friend my number to give to him and his friend was joking with him saying it was for him. When he told him he was seeing me on the weekend his friend said " did she mention me" , now he wants us to piss his friend off, i don't know why. since then he kept repeatedly asking if i miss him and saying he misses me he said ' i miss you' 10 times yesterday and kept asking me what i was doing, where i was going and who with.

He told me to take care when going home and and asked me if i got home safely. He told me he never wants to lose me and i'm the best thing that's happened to him since he was born, and saying he wants us to last and if we had a child it would look beautiful. Also when we were out he stole something from a shop and said i'd have to get used to it. He tried to get a new phone today so he can always call me when he misses me. He wants to come to my house on Saturday and yesterday we were hanging out after college and i was sitting on his lap and i kept trying to get up because i was getting pins and needles in my leg but he just kept saying " you're not going" he was talking and i must have been looking away and he said to look at him when he's talking to me and he grabbed my face twice and said i'm his property... he also took my phone again during English class as well and when i took it back he took my work that i was doing and my bag..he keeps asking for my password... I really don't understand, this is all kinda new to me i really like him and i don't want to lose him i have no idea if this is normal or not...(sorry for any spelling mistakes)

NOT NORMAL!!!! Run, seriously, this boy is possessive and considers you his property, not a good sign. I've been there, it turns ugly, and by the looks of it yours turns ugly very quickly if he's displaying such behaviour so early on.

Seriously, I kid you not, he has all the makings of an abuser, controlling, demanding you relinquish any privacy, as well as thinking he now owns you.

Run girl run, I wish someone had told me that when I was your age... I really do.

Wattt this is jealousy on a new level !!! Run girl run!! U r ur own property !!!!

Listen to Tripping and muaythailady he sounds dangerous. The longer that you're with him then the worse it shall get.

You need to get out of that situation and fast, you could be risking your life, he's dangerous and not someone you want to be with

Hanging in there

let me start by saying this..this type of behavior is NOT NORMAL!!! serious red flags..let me speak from experience..i am a guy myself ,i never acted like this AT ANY AGE.

you are not anyone's "property" you are a person not an inanimate object.

so let me make this simple for you

1) asking for the password to your phone..RED FLAG..why does he need the password to YOUR phone..what is he the TSA?? are you a terrorist threat or something..it's your phone not his..maybe you should politely inform him you already have 2 parents and don't need a third.

2)he TOOK your phone from you..the phone is your PROPERTY..you are not his! this is yet another RED FLAG..he has no right to take your phone..period

3) the forced kissing..i for one would never FORCE anyone to kiss me..you don't want to kiss me i leave you alone..this is what his attitude should have been..you don't sit on someone and FORCE them to kiss you..what happens if you get ALONE with this guy and you are not ready for sex???? it's a four letter word that starts with "r' and ends with "e"..i suggest you come to your senses..any intimate contact should be MUTUALLY DESIRED not FORCED..period, save yourself some real trouble and unnecessary trauma.

4) him telling you "you're not going" totally uncalled for, who is he to tell you whether you can or cannot go anywhere..you have a control freak on your hands and he is potentially violent and abusive..you need to run for the hills, get away from him before you get hurt.

GRABBING YOUR FACE...NOT NORMAL
CONTINUALLY ASKING FOR PASSWORDS...NOT NORMAL
TAKING YOUR PHONE...NOT NORMAL
CLAIMING YOU AS PROPERTY..NOT NORMAL

i understand this is all new to you..don't let this guy screw you up for life and ruin it for some good guy down the road..this is not the person you want in your life..i can assure you if you do not heed this advice..you WILL be sorry for the rest of your life..ask some of the other women on this forum that have been through a relationship with an abusive s/o, ask them about the damage it did to them..i assure you ..you don't want to experience it. heed my warning..heed it well..GET AWAY FROM THIS GUY NOW!!!

RUN! Run like your on fire, like wolves are chasing you. This boy is dangerous.

Trust me, getting beaten to a pulp is no walk in the park, it takes very long to recover from, and it infects your future (healthy) relationship with its poison and makes a good man pay for crimes he never committed...

Trust me, please run.

If being abused by my ex has brought me nothing except the opportunity to educate others and helping even just one girl to choose not to walk down my same path, then getting beaten up was worth it.

That is so far from 'normal' it has the potential to be seriously dangerous.

Like everyone else has said you need to stay away from this boy.

You can't fix him. Please don't try.

Forcing kisses, leads to forced other aspects. That's going to be most psychologically damaging. As if the rest isn't going to be damaging enough.

I get the idea, of wanting to have a relationship. Just some people aren't relationship material, he sounds like not relationship material.


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I agree with all of the above posts...adding again, don't think you can fix him! That's one of the first things an abusive partner will do, right after they hurt you....beg you to give them another chance, and insist only YOU can help them become a better person. It's b***shyte. Your relationship is already spinning out of control and the concern you feel is your brain warning you so you can save yourself before you hit the floor.

TRUST US...........GET OUT NOW. AND DON'T LOOK BACK.

(that means any contact you can avoid with him, avoid it, even if it means you have to change classes so as to NOT be in a class with him. Tell your teacher about this, counselor...someone so they know, so it is documented.)

Take care

I agree with all the others!

You can't fix this person.

Please be safe

(I wish someone had warned me when I was your age too...)

Everyone here is right. Run. Run fast.

Nothing in his behavior is good, right or normal. He is a controlling, demanding and will end up being a smothering bf if not soemthing much worse.

I would not ask a woman even my gf for her password on her phone unless there ws some reason to do so at taht point, and if there were a reason to, I'd be questioning the relationship already. A relationship is going to have problems no matter what, but it needs to start out with a foundation of trust to be able to endure the normal issues. Without that in the beginning the only way from that is a downward spiral. Trust me.